"We don't stop playing because we grow old ... we grow old because we stop playing" George Bernard Shaw.

For the Here and Now

Let go of the "should"

The purpose of life, after all, is to enjoy it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience.        Eleanor Roosevelt, American politician, diplomat, activist

When chatting to clients, I am often surprised at  how few think it is important to spoil themselves.  Many feel doing something they will enjoy just because they want to is somewhat selfish. 

In the next breath, they describe how they are quite happy to spoil their loved ones with something that is important to them. This they see as loving and kind. 

My challenge is to love yourself by giving yourself an experience just for the fun of it - not worrying what others will think, but doing it because it adds value to your life.

I spoil myself every year by celebrating my birthday.  I spend month planning a party, because another year means a celebration of life.  I love to celebrate this with special people in my life.  This is not what everyone would choose, of course.  In fact, for one of my friends, attending social parties is torturous! But, for me, a beautiful evening enjoying time with friends under an Autumn sky with twinkling lights and clinking glasses of wine ... just perfect!

Perfection for Lindajane and Trevor Thompson comes in the form of an exciting Geocaching pursuit, while Laura and Ray enjoy life to the fullest through a competitive game of bowls on a pristine green.   

Have you forgotten how to make yourself feel good?  How to enjoy life to the fullest? Of savouring the moment that may never be repeated?

So, free yourself from the guilt of doing something just for yourself.  You are as important as anyone else.  Let go of the "should" and have some fun!

Today, I will do something just for the fun of it. 
I will find something to do that's just for me, and
I won't worry about what I "should" be doing. 
I will learn how to make myself feel good and enjoy life to the fullest. 
  Best-selling author, Melody Beattie

The ultimate Treasure Hunt

Lindajane and Trevor Thompson are never short of something to go looking for.  In some ways, their lives are one long treasure hunt.  The reason for this is an on-line hobby sweeping the world called Geocaching.

The Thompsons are retirees who live in Belvidere Estate, just outside Knysna.  “We love the outdoors and travel a lot.  Geocaching has become one of our favourite ways of spending time.  It satisfies our need for seeking out new places and experiences,” explains Trevor.

To begin, potential geocachers need to create an account by signing up on-line and creating their own unique username and password.  Then they can access the millions of “geocaches,” also called “caches,” hidden around the world.  Clicking on a particular site on the map will reveal its GPS co-ordinates and treasure-hunt clue.

Click here to read the rest of this article and see if Geocaching is for you.  You can also click here to go to the Geocaching site.


Where is your ladder leaning?

As I compile this newsletter, Alec Hogg's daily comment offers a wonderful contribution from his newsletter, touching on making the most of our time.  I share it for your appreciation and edification:

While researching his masterful Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, the late Stephen Covey discovered from them that the lives of many supposedly successful people were actually a mess. If they could live their lives again, Covey wrote, many shared that they would have chosen a very different path.

His conclusion was that too often people scramble up the ladder of life only to realise it has been leaning against the wrong wall. As Covey put it: “If the ladder is not leaning against the right wall, every step we take just gets us to the wrong place faster.”

It’s a reminder to reflect. Often. Things change rapidly in our warp-speed world, often drifting our lives into places we would never consciously have chosen. Without constant reflection, we never discover the ladder is leaning against the wrong wall. 

I've never forgotten  friend, then 29, who excitedly told me he was giving up his career to enrol in Medical School.  But you'll by 36 when you finish, I questioned - isn't that too old? To which he responded: Imagine how old I'll be then, if I don't follow my dream now ...

Bowls: a few Dos and Don'ts

Chartered clients, Laura and Ray Wilson are avid (and competitive!) lawn bowlers whose enthusiasm for the game is infectious.

In this article, they share some useful tips for the bowls beginner ... and some reminders for the more experienced ones.  We share their article hoping to 
encourage many more clients to sign up for our Chartered Bowls League - an informal and fun group that meets a few times a year for a relaxed game, lots of laughter and scrumptious snacks. 

Should you wish to join us at our next event, or join the league for future events, please email Holly at  No skills are needed; we have a coach on hand to guide you as you learn the game.  Who knows?  You may even challenge our resident champions!

First and foremost, take an interest in the game.

  1. Get to know the names of the bowlers in your rink. Get to know which bowls belong to who, and note who won the end so that you know when the jack is yours.
  2. After the toss to see which team goes off first and if the mat is not yours, find and give the mat and jack to your opposing lead and put up his/her bowl for him/her.
  3. After the toss to see which team goes off first and if the mat is not yours, find and give the mat and jack to your opposing lead and put up his/her bowl for him/her.
  4. Stand behind the mat in silence with the other bowlers whilst the jack is delivered.
  5. If after the toss, the mat is yours and after delivering your bowl, stay on the mat so that your Skip can show you how short or long you are.
Click here to read the rest of the article on our Retire Successfully website.

Mark a change with a celebration!

For some time, we have been recommending that clients who are anticipating a transition of some kind - even a very small one - use it as an opportunity to celebrate.  These celebrations can take any form you like, and here are some suggestions ...

Capture a family moment. 
We all have so many photographs, but there’s something special about gathering extended family or different generations together for a properly arranged portrait picture that will capture you all.  Enlist a talented amateur photographer or even pay a professional.  Of course, you’ll all have the perfect excuse to celebrate the photograph afterwards with tea and cake or maybe something more.

Make a friend feel special.
Arrange to meet for coffee or a drink but order ahead to ensure a special cake or nice bottle of fizz is waiting to celebrate an achievement of theirs that’s not obvious.

Mix formal with free. 

You don’t need a special celebration to elevate a picnic to classy with lights, a tablecloth and all the trimmings.  This pleases all ages.

This is an extract from an article in Woman and Home magazine.

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