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Queens' Monthly Mentoring February 2017
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To encourage women to receive the
abundant life Jesus came to bring
them through the teaching of the
Word of God while pursuing their
Kingdom purpose!

 
Queens' Update

We will meet for our next Queens'
meeting March 18th at 7:30pm.
If interested in attending, contact
the email address:
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February's Queens' Mentoring Greeting 
February's Queens' Mentoring Moment
Word to the Wise

I want to talk to you about loneliness and your perspective. During the month of February, we are constantly reminded about our relationship status. We just experienced Valentine's day and there are so many marriage conferences and retreats this month as well. If you are single and you desire to be in a relationship, February can be a constant reminder of what you do not possess yet. If you are married, and you are unhappy in your marriage, unfulfilled or still experiencing loneliness within your marriage, this is still a difficult time of the year. You have probably heard the saying that you can be in a room full of people and still be lonely. Loneliness is not determined by your relationship status. it is not determined by the amount of friends and relatives you have around you. Loneliness is a perspective or a state of mind. If the enemy has been trying to use loneliness as a weapon against you, I want you to turn the tables on him. Look at loneliness from a different perspective. Look at your time alone as an opportunity for God to do a special work in your life. Sometimes, people can put the relationships in their lives in the place that is only meant for God. Sometimes, seasons of loneliness may be God trying to get your attention in His desire for a deeper relationship between you and Him. Sometimes we can be so focused on what we want that we do not even consider what God wants for us. In John 12:24 NLT, we are given a different perspective regarding loneliness. Sometimes we have to learn to die to our ambitions so the plan God has for our lives can be enacted or manifested.
" I tell you the truth, unless a kernel of wheat is planted in the soil and dies, it remains alone. But its death will produce many new kernels--a plentiful harvest of new lives." 
Look at this season you may be experiencing through new eyes. The most important relationship we have is the one we have with God. Allow Him to show you that the enemy is a liar. As long as you have God, you are never alone. Deuteronomy 31:8 NIV "The LORD himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged." Psalm 9:10 NIV "Those who know your name trust in you, for you, LORD, have never forsaken those who seek you." So, the next time the enemy tries to speak in your ear about how lonely or miserable you are, you cast down those thoughts (2 Cor.10:5) and remind the enemy that God is at work in your life and that you are never alone.

Building Right Relationships Pt.2

Last month, we studied the importance of relationships and how we were not meant to do things on our own. This month, we are going to focus on the example that Jesus gives us on how to function within relationships and the world. Every day is another opportunity for the Holy Spirit to work through us in our relationships. We must be open to His leading as we interact with people on a daily basis.
Jesus is always our example of how to live the Kingdom kind of life. He gives us examples of how to judge and discern our relationships.
Matthew 12:33-35 NLT
“A tree is identified by its fruit. If a tree is good, its fruit will be good. If a tree is bad, its fruit will be bad. You brood of snakes! How could evil men like you speak what is good and right? For whatever is in your heart determines what you say. A good person produces good things from the treasury of a good heart, and an evil person produces evil things from the treasury of an evil heart.”

Matthew 7:15-18, 20 NLT
“Beware of false prophets who come disguised as harmless sheep but are really vicious wolves. You can identify them by their fruit, that is, by the way they act. Can you pick grapes from thornbushes, or figs from thistles? A good tree produces good fruit, and a bad tree produces bad fruit. A good tree can’t produce bad fruit, and a bad tree can’t produce good fruit.
Yes, just as you can identify a tree by its fruit, so you can identify people by their actions.”

God wants us to live by the leading of the Holy Spirit, producing the fruit of the Spirit in our lives and looking for the fruit of the Spirit in the lives of others.
Galatians 5:16-26 NLT
“So I say, let the Holy Spirit guide your lives. Then you won’t be doing what your sinful nature craves. The sinful nature wants to do evil, which is just the opposite of what the Spirit wants. And the Spirit gives us desires that are the opposite of what the sinful nature desires. These two forces are constantly fighting each other, so you are not free to carry out your good intentions. But when you are directed by the Spirit, you are not under obligation to the law of Moses. When you follow the desires of your sinful nature, the results are very clear: sexual immorality, impurity, lustful pleasures, idolatry, sorcery, hostility, quarreling, jealousy, outbursts of anger, selfish ambition, dissension, division, envy, drunkenness, wild parties, and other sins like these. Let me tell you again, as I have before, that anyone living that sort of life will not inherit the Kingdom of God. But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against these things! Those who belong to Christ Jesus have nailed the passions and desires of their sinful nature to his cross and crucified them there. Since we are living by the Spirit, let us follow the Spirit’s leading in every part of our lives. Let us not become conceited, or provoke one another, or be jealous of one another.”

In the fast-paced technological world we live in, with all the internet social networks, it is easy to get caught up in trying to be popular or trying to go viral with whatever it is that you are interested in doing. Despite all that technology offers, we must be careful not to desire friendship and approval from the world. Being a godly influence in the world is different from becoming a friend of the world.
John 15:17-20 NLT
“This is my command: Love each other. If the world hates you, remember that it hated me first. The world would love you as one of its own if you belonged to it, but you are no longer part of the world. I chose you to come out of the world, so it hates you. Do you remember what I told you? ‘A slave is not greater than the master.’ Since they persecuted me, naturally they will persecute you. And if they had listened to me, they would listen to you.”

Proverbs 18:24 AMP
“The man of many friends [a friend of all the world] will prove himself a bad friend, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”

I am so grateful for the relationships God has placed in my life. But, something I have noticed about each of them is that they are purposeful. None of these relationships happened by accident. If we allow God to lead us in our relationships, He will lead us to people who are connected to our destiny.
Ruth 1:6-18 NLT
“Then Naomi heard in Moab that the LORD had blessed his people in Judah by giving them good crops again. So Naomi and her daughters-in-law got ready to leave Moab to return to her homeland. With her two daughters-in-law she set out from the place where she had been living, and they took the road that would lead them back to Judah. But on the way, Naomi said to her two daughters-in-law, “Go back to your mothers’ homes. And may the LORD reward you for your kindness to your husbands and to me. May the LORD bless you with the security of another marriage.” Then she kissed them good-bye, and they all broke down and wept. “No,” they said. “We want to go with you to your people.” But Naomi replied, “Why should you go on with me? Can I still give birth to other sons who could grow up to be your husbands? No, my daughters, return to your parents’ homes, for I am too old to marry again. And even if it were possible, and I were to get married tonight and bear sons, then what? Would you wait for them to grow up and refuse to marry someone else? No, of course not, my daughters! Things are far more bitter for me than for you, because the LORD himself has raised his fist against me.” And again they wept together, and Orpah kissed her mother-in-law good-bye. But Ruth clung tightly to Naomi. “Look,” Naomi said to her, “your sister-in-law has gone back to her people and to her gods. You should do the same.” But Ruth replied, “Don’t ask me to leave you and turn back. Wherever you go, I will go; wherever you live, I will live. Your people will be my people, and your God will be my God. Wherever you die, I will die, and there I will be buried. May the LORD punish me severely if I allow anything but death to separate us!” When Naomi saw that Ruth was determined to go with her, she said nothing more.”

1 Samuel 20 (The story of David and Jonathan)
We must recognize relationships as opportunities to spread the influence of God’s Kingdom. Every relationship you have should be purposeful.
Galatians 6:10 KJV
“As we have therefore opportunity, let us do good unto all men, especially unto them who are of the household of faith.”

Our relationships with others, whether good or bad, will determine our successfulness in life. We were not made to do everything alone. Cooperation is necessary for great success.
Psalms 1:1-3 AMPC
“Blessed (happy, fortunate, prosperous, and enviable) is the man who walks and lives not in the counsel of the ungodly [following their advice, their plans and purposes], nor stands [submissive and inactive] in the path where sinners walk, nor sits down [to relax and rest] where the scornful[and the mockers] gather. But his delight and desire are in the law of the Lord, and on His law (the precepts, the instructions, the teachings of God) he habitually meditates (ponders and studies) by day and by night. And he shall be like a tree firmly planted [and tended] by the streams of water, ready to bring forth its fruit in its season; its leaf also shall not fade or wither; and everything he does shall prosper [and come to maturity].”

The last thing we need to look at in building relationships is forgiveness. Sometimes, things may take place in relationships that are detrimental. When those situations happen in our lives, we have to operate as Jesus did. Forgiveness is a must in the Kingdom of God. We cannot operate successfully without forgiveness in our hearts. Holding grudges and bitterness against people we are in relationship with will only hinder our progress and success. Forgive those who have hurt you.
Matthew 6:14-15 NIV
“For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.”

Matthew 7:12 NLT
"Do to others whatever you would like them to do to you. This is the essence of all that is taught in the law and the prophets.”

 
Questions
 
  1. Have you ever wasted time in an unfruitful relationship?
  2. What are some ways you can improve your relationships with other people? 
  3. Do you have a difficult time forgiving others?
  4. Do you have good discernment concerning relationships?
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