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DO Men only want Sex?

It's so easy to agree but is it true?

man in mask at mirrorWhen I hear the words “men are only interested in sex…” I feel angry, angry at how easily as a man I feel I have been judged. It is an instant flash of heat and fire when I feel labeled as an unfeeling block of wood that only wants to sex. Yes, I do love sex but most importantly, I love making love, not as an unfeeling block of wood, but as a deeply loving, emotionally connected man.

I am a man who has focused my last 15 years on learning and connecting with my emotionality. I am no longer the same person, I no longer live in the same part of the world, where I lived for 54 years, or work at anything remotely resembling what I was doing when I started this journey.

What I have begun to understand is that the more I find out, the more I realise I don’t know.     This has not been an easy journey for me to learn and understand emotional heart connection and I still feel intensity when I hear this judgment towards men.

Do Men Only Want sex….?

Or is it they want more, just don't know how to say it...

I agree, that men have earned this judgment and men including myself have been unfeeling fuckers and there are reasons but really no excuses.  I feel sad for myself and all those men who have been conditioned from very early in their lives to believe that emotions are wrong and not to be shown, shared or expressed.Graeme Sudholz
It was confronting for me to accept, understand or even acknowledge how emotionally closed I was, yet that was my normal in my world back then. In my previous life I was in a long term marriage that ended, a farmer and earth moving contractor, and in that world emotions received the same level of social acceptance as contracting a sexually transmitted disease.

For more read on here

I want you to kiss me...

The power of owning our desires...

Kissing coupleI said  to Graeme the other day "I want you to kiss me" and the lack of response I was anticipating (I got the kiss just not any joy, or  passion for that matter...) made me wonder if I should look further into what was happening.

The easy response was to get pissed off and go into all sorts of story about why Graeme’s response didn’t meet my expectations resulting in the following:

Mind games:

Making myself wrong: I’m not sexy/attractive enough, he doesn’t desire/love me anymore (victim)
Making him wrong: He’s just a ....for not giving me what I want, he’s just closed down (perpetrator)
Understanding his potential perspective: Maybe he’s just having a bad day (rescuer)
Letting go of personal judgement: the timing wasn’t right (higher self)

Looking a little further I replayed the experience not just in my mind but also felt it in my body.

I took what I learned into a whole new approach that had a wow result!

To see how read on here




The first one was a success so we're doing it again!
Date Night For Couples in Brisbane Aug 10th 2015

Don't let the winter blues freeze your relationship.
Join us for this seriously fun new offering to add some extra spring to your relationship! 


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Women's Inner Wisdom Day...

A fun and nurturing day for women to remember the truth of who they are. And wow, that's amazing!

Brisbane Sat Sept 5th

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Bali Couples Retreat


Ecstasy & Intimacy Oct 3rd-10th 2015


"I thoroughly recommend this workshop to everyone thinking about it who is willing to open up to themselves and their partner. You will never look back!" Lisa SA

"This was a truly profound and life changing week. Sharing myself, feeling understood and loved was hugely reassuring!" Kieran NSW

Power of Yoni 1 Weekend for Women

Oct 29th- Nov 1st 2015
Note Date change!

Are you ready to explore your essence as a woman?

"I used to teach tantric healing work in the UK for 6yrs and have not experienced such a healing environment for women's sexuality" Kim, SA
"This workshop showed me the way to re-establish myself as a woman. To find the power and understanding of myself as woman".
Sam, QLD
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