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5 Soothing Strategies to Tame Your Child’s Monsters under the Bed

By Heather Silverberg, MD; Scripps Coastal Medical Center, Oceanside

How can you tame your child’s monsters under the bed and ghouls in the closet? Understanding childhood fears and terrors and learning certain strategies that bring peace and confidence to your child can foster a strong parental bond and help develop coping strategies for life’s inevitable stresses.
Age-specific fears
Fears are a natural part of child development and reflect the developing mind, so learn what types of fears are typical at your child’s age. For example, infants often fear strangers and loud noises, while toddlers fear separation from caregivers. Preschool-age children creatively imbue common objects with sinister intentions—will the vacuum cleaner suck me up?—and teens may fear natural disaster, rejection or topics brought up on the news.  While these fears may seem irrational to you, your child’s concerns stem from how they experience the world and are best respected and accepted.
It helps to think things through with the child. Show you care and understand the anxiety and help them keep perspective and comprehend that most problems have solutions. Model a confident response to stressful situations with a positive attitude and encourage a child to learn positive self-statements, such as ‘I can do this’ and ‘I will be okay.’ These statements can help them learn to tolerate their anxiety.
5 Tips to Try
Try these soothing strategies to calm an anxious child:
  • Talk to your child.
Pinpoint what is frightening your child by asking him how he is feeling and listen closely. Remember that what seems trivial to you is real to your child and never make fun of or belittle the fears.
It’s natural for kids to worry, and feeling understood by others is a very healthy and validating experience.
  • Let them know that they are safe.
Let your little one know that everything is ok, that the bed is safe and that nothing will get her.
When a bad dream wakes your child up, and she cries out or runs into your bedroom, give a quick reassurance and hug and tuck her into her own bed.
While you always want to respect your child’s fears, you don’t necessarily want to overreact to them.You want to help them feel comfortable with them and confident they can handle the situation.
  • For nighttime fears, establish a quiet bedtime routine. For 30 to 60 minutes before bedtime, avoid scary movies, videos or TV shows, and read a light-hearted bedtime story. Parents can distract their child with pleasant thoughts after being tucked into bed. If necessary, you can check together under the bed to show that there are no monsters in hiding.
  • Use security objects and nightlights.
Having a favorite stuffed animal or blanket can provide your child with a feeling of control and comfort.
  • For older children, be open to discussing events that create stress.
When a frightening event is in the news, such as a terrorist attack or a natural disaster, help your child understand that she is safe. Explain that these tragedies rarely occur, but that even if something bad did happen, you, the school and the community have a plan in place to keep people and animals from harm.
Fears are very common in young children, and it is a normal part of development. Most children outgrow them as they get older. Parents can help by listening to their child’s fears, being patient and talking about how to overcome their fears.
Call your pediatrician if your child’s fears continue or grow worse, or if your child’s anxieties begin after a traumatic experience or event and persist after the event is long over.

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Christine (Ito) Wood, M.D., C.L.E. is a practicing pediatrician at Coast Pediatrics Carmel Valley and certified lactation educator with interests in healthy nutrition for children and the environmental and nutritional impact on health and disease. She is a compelling voice on the subject of children’s nutritional and environmental issues. She is the author of the book, How to Get Kids to Eat Great & Love It! Filled with practical, easy-to-understand information for parents, she backs it up with science-based research to emphasize the nutritional links to disease. She maintains another website, My Kids Doctor Visit, launched in 1997. It is a website for parents designed to give information on common illnesses, like colds, ear infections, diarrhea, vomiting, fever, and more. “Kids Weigh to Go” is her program targeting families with overweight children.

Dr. Wood lectures to physicians and other health professionals (nurses, lactation consultants, dietitians, school nurses and others) on the topic of nutritional medicine for children and she gives seminars to parents on healthy lifestyle practices for children. She is a research consultant for San Diego State University with a 5-year grant (started March 2006) on preventing childhood obesity in recreation centers. She has lectured throughout the United States, Canada, Australia, New Zealand, Korea, Singapore, and Japan.

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