The Gifts of Grief
I hope you enjoyed your Thanksgiving holiday. For me, it has been a time to pause and get in touch with my many blessings.
And the pause was well-timed as I am working my way through the post-election blues.
So much has already been said about this unprecedented election to the point where I have been feeling weary from the conversation.
And yet, I know it is very important that our voices are heard in this time of turmoil and uncertainty.
The whole process reminds me of grieving for the loss of a loved one. It seems to me that we are grieving for the perceived loss of our nation...like an amorphous cloud of doom has settled in over our heads.
When I read Therese Tappouni's book, The Gifts of Grief: Finding Light in the Darkness of Loss, I couldn't help but compare the loss of a loved one to the perceived loss of our nation, as we know it. Loss can come in many forms.
Tappouni explores the grieving process and examines new ways to heal from the inside out. Through guided meditations and journaling exercises, she offers a path from emptiness to wholeness, highlighting that loss can be survived and new blessings can evolve.
In either case, looking into the future needs to be addressed after the initial shock of loss.
What are the gifts of grief that we can take into our own futures and the future of our nation?
Here are a few, I've gleaned from The Gifts of Grief and relate to our current events:
The shock of this sudden change has forced us to reevaluate our core values..respect, civility, decency.
The plight of the disenfranchised population has been broken open. It was always there, but became more prominent during the campaign.
Compassion for our fellow man seems to be on the rise. Calls to be kind to one another echo across cyberspace.
Our words matter..as citizens, as artists and as leaders.
The "sounds of freedom" ring out across our nation as people gather to protest or celebrities use their stages to proclaim the rights of all citizens.
Intolerance is out in the open and this may be the impetus we need for positive changes.
The threat of losing our freedoms and civil liberties has awakened us to their preciousness. People are motivated to speak up and demand justice.
Perhaps, the greatest gift of all..to hope in our future and to fight to preserve our freedoms for our children and grandchildren.
I blogged about my thoughts in "In the Aftermath, I Choose Hope" and am very encouraged by the many thoughtful responses from commenters.
As in any grieving process, it takes time to move through the various stages and how we do is individual.
I do hope the healing process has begun and that together we can work for the greater good. Life is still good and our democracy is worth the fight.
I shelved my WIP second memoir three months ago for personal reasons. Memoir writing is not a process that can be rushed. As memories are uncovered, one has to be able to face the facts, deal with the feelings generated from events and create a healthy emotional distance so that the story can be told. I hit a wall
emotionally and had to step back. Being kind and gentle with oneself is an important part of the journey. The story is marinating on its own. I'm beginning to hear a faint call to revisit it. I have learned to listen when the story beckons.
Max loves roaming around in our November woods:
May you embrace your blessings and experience the power of forgiveness and peace as you navigate through life's challenges.
Thank you, as always, for your ongoing support.
See you in December~
"A page-turning emotional journey." (Amazon reviewer)