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Welcome to our latest newsletter.

It’s the last of day of Mental Health Awareness week.  If you get the chance, pop along to one of the community events below. 

PATHWAYS - Level 1, Departmental Building, 31 Chapel Street
9.30-10.30AM  |  Workshop - Multi systemic therapy and its value in the community  |  Arran Jameson, Emerge Aotearoa

11-12 noon  |  Workshop - The value of connecting with nature  |  An overview and a personal journey  |  Aiden Broughton, Dept. of Conservation

TE HAUORA - 15 Victoria Street
1.30-3.30PM  |  Marketplace, raffle draw, kai, close the week

5-8PM  |  Evening get together  |  Be together, relax and take time to reflect on the week and its values.

Noho ora mai rā me aku mihi nui atu.


Ang Turipa

Violence Free Wairarapa


Listen to your intuition, if you feel something's not right ACT on it
If you or someone else is in immediate danger, call 111 and ask for the Police.
Where to go for help or more information:
Age Concern Elder Abuse Response Service  Providing confidential support, advocacy and information for people facing elder abuse and neglect.

06 377 0066

Oranga Tamariki  If you have concerns about a child's safety, you can contact: 
0 5 0 8  -  3 2 6  -  4 5 9
This line is answered 24/7.  You can ring anonymously to talk through a situation before deciding whether to make a formal report.
Women’s Refuge can provide you with free and private advice and support.
Wairarapa Womens Refuge

Crisis    06 377 1717
Office    06 378 2241
            0800 REFUGE (0800 733 843) 

Wairarapa Rape & Sexual Abuse Collective Inc  Provide support for victims of Sexual Abuse and Rape, services include counselling, survivors’ groups and children’s programmes.
06 370 8446
0800 614  614

Family Works  Safety Programmes for men, women and children who have been victims of Family Harm as well as counselling and social work support.

06 308 8028  

ChangeAbility  Offers group and individual programmes for men, women and young people who have been affected by or perpetrate family violence. 

06 377 0933
It's Not Ok  Information line
0800 456 450

Ministry of Justice  Provides information on legal protection for those affected by domestic violence.
White Ribbon  Aiming to eliminate men's violence towards women.

1. What can I do? Tip Sheet  Responding to Family Violence
2. Do's and Don'ts Responding to aggressive clients
3. De-escalation Training AWOCA process

Upcoming Community Network Meetings:
South Wairarapa:
Thursday 17 October
11:30 am - 1:00 pm
Featherston Community Centre

Thursday 24 October
1:30 - 3:00 pm
Carterton Events Centre
Friday 25 October
12:00 pm - 1:30 pm
Wairarapa Community Centre

If you are worried about your or someone else's mental health, get help from your GP or mental health provider.  If you or someone else is in danger or endangering others, call police immediately on 111.

If you need to talk:

MENTAL HEALTH:  0508 432 432
LIFELINE: 0800 543 354 (available 24/7)
SUICIDE CRISIS HELPLINE: 0508 828 865 (0508 TAUTOKO) (available 24/7)
YOUTHLINE: 0800 376 633
NEED TO TALK?:  Text 1737 (available 24/7)

PIKI:  Online support for people aged 18-25 living iin Greater Wellington region including Wairarapa
KIDSLINE: 0800 543 754 (available 24/7)
WHATSUP: 0800 942 8787 (1pm to 11pm)

Survey on how people access family violence support

The National Collective of Independent Women’s Refuges is leading a project through the Lightning Lab GovTech accelerator programme to explore how people in Aotearoa access information and support for family violence, including the barriers to access and opportunities for improvement. 

As part of this project, a survey has been released which you are encouraged to take part in and share across your platforms/networks.   

The survey is open to anyone who has been impacted by family violence and you can access it here: 

This survey is part of MSD's development of a National Family Violence Help Portal - info about this is in their Family Violence Funding Approach document released in July 2019 - see page 17.

Family Violence Funding Approach

News and Resources

National and World:

Musician called Wife Beater accused of 'normalising' domestic violence - 25 SEP 2019
Family harm investigations on the rise, police figures show - 23 SEP 2015
Getting tough: How New Zealand could stop domestic violence - 20 SEP 2019
Mental health & addiction services urged to improve family violence responsiveness - 9 SEP 2019
Man who chokes partner, threatens further violence, stays in jail - 8 SEP 2019
Report finds social service providers significantly underfunded, over-reliant on philanthropy - 4 SEP 2019
Statistics NZ forms Data Ethics Advisory Group - 3 SEP 2019

Fixed It: Taking on mistreatment of women by the media

The media often goes to astounding lengths to remove the responsibility for violence from men, says Australian journalist Jane Gilmore.  So, for the past three years, Gilmore has made it her mission to fix headlines that label, blame and shame women.  Now her #FixedIt movement has become a book about what can be done to... fix it.  Read more ...

You can listen to Jane's interview on Nine to Noon with Kathryn on Radio New Zealand .

TEDX Sydney Talk on Fixed It

Family Violence and Sexual Violence Service Provider Update - September 2019

The Ministry of Social Development update for family violence and sexual violence service providers includes:

You can read and subscribe to the MSD newsletter here.

MOJ - Navigation Tool For Relationship Break Up

Ministry of Justice have recently added new information to to help people who are experiencing a relationship break up. 
Navigating a relationship break up
The new navigating tool on their website is to present information about relationship break ups in a different way. The key features of this tool include:

  • It acts like a funnel. People are only shown information about the topics they select, and they can navigate to more detail if they want to.
  • Users can create a “to do” list of actions that they can save or share and return to later.

MOJ have carried out testing with several groups of users including members of the public, Ministry of Justice staff, and service providers. Their feedback has been used in the design and development of the new content.
You can check out the new tool here
Care of children content
The care of children content in the Family section of their website has also been updated as part of this project. Some of you may have existing links to this section on your websites, so please check and update these.  See the new care of children section.

If you have any questions or find any issues with the new pages, please contact 

New Zealand Crime and Victims Survey (NZCVS)

The NZCVS is a nationwide, face-to-face, annual, random-sample survey asking New Zealanders aged 15 and over about incidents of crime they experienced over the last 12 months. This includes both incidents reported to the Police and unreported incidents.  The NZCVS is a new survey and the list of key findings reflects the first year of interviewing.


Interpersonal violence

  • Almost 300,000 adults experienced interpersonal violence over the last 12 months.
  • These victims were victimised more than 747,000 times.
  • Nineteen personal violence incidents happened for every 100 adults.
  • More than one quarter of incidents related to sexual assaults, and almost a third related to other assaults and robberies.

Family violence

  • Almost 80,000 adults experienced more than 190,000 incidents of family violence over the last 12 months.
  • The proportion of female victims of family violence (71%) more than twice exceeds that of male victims (29%).
  • More than 40% of all victims are between 15 and 29 years old.
  • The number of family violence incidents per 100 adults among Māori is twice as high as among New Zealand Europeans.
  • More than 30,000 adults were victimised by partners, more than 16,000 by ex-partners, and approximately 40,000 by other family members.

Note: For some incidents more than one offender may be involved.

Psychological violence 

  • More than 100,000 adults (3.6%) experienced psychological violence over the last 12 months.
  • The most frequent type of psychological violence is stopping someone from contacting family or friends. The least frequent type is pressing a victim into paid work.
  • Māori and those aged between 15 and 29 years old are almost twice more likely than the national average to experience psychological violence.

Sexual violence 

  • Almost 200,000 sexual assault incidents happened to almost 90,000 adults over the last 12 months.
  • Females made up 71% of the victims and suffered from 80% of sexual assault incidents.
  • The number of sexual assault incidents per 100 females is almost four times higher than per 100 males.
  • Every two of three sexually assaulted people are between 15 and 29 years old.

Lifetime violence 

  • More than half a million people (16% of adults) experienced one or more incidents of IPV at some point during their lives.
  • Females (21%) were more likely than males (10%) to have experienced one or more incidents of IPV at some point during their lives.
  • More than 900,000 people (23% of adults) experienced one or more incidents of sexual violence at some point during their lives.
  • Females (34%) were almost three times more likely than males (12%) to have experienced one or more incidents of sexual violence at some point during their lives.
  • Māori are more likely to be victims of lifetime sexual violence than the national average, while Asian people are less likely.

Selected drivers of family violence

  • Argument is the most often perceived reason for all family violence incidents (44%) and especially for current-partner violence (66%). It is followed by jealousy (33% for all family violence incidents and 40% for intimate partner violence).
  • About one in three incidents of current-partner violence is believed to be triggered by financial issues.

Family violence victims’ experience 

  • Most family violence victims (more than 90%) are aware of support organisations.
  • Only a small proportion of those aware of the support organisations actually contacted them (23%). Even well-known support organisations were contacted by only 10–12% of victims. Significantly more family violence victims are seeking help from other family members than from organisations providing formal support.
  • The reasons most often given for not contacting support organisations were “Did not need help” (30%), “Wanted to handle it myself” (22%) and “Private matter” (17%).

NZCVS data collection will continue until September 2020 which will make it possible to both increase the accuracy of the survey results and to analyse changes in the volume and structure of victimisation in New Zealand.

Upcoming Events and Training Opportunities

Further Afield and Online:

Pathways To Resilience - Annual Family Harm & Domestic Violence Conference

When:    Thursday 17 & Friday 18 October 2019
Where:   Novotel Auckland Ellerslie, 72-112 Green Lane East, Ellerslie, Auckland
Cost:       $185-$420

Key Themes

Whanau/Family Resilience

Youth/Rangatahi Models of Service

Case Studies/ Research Outcomes

Intergenerational Family Harm

Systemic Models of Service

Keynote Speakers

MC - Pale Sauni, Dr Elizabeth Mati / Dr Monique Faleafa - Le Va - Standing Together Against Violence, Cissy Rock - Community Think - Community Resilience, Sonia Marsters - Te Wananga o Aotearoa, Julie Moore / Student Voice - Graeme Dingle Foundation - Resilience/Youth Programmes, Jan Logie - NZ House of Representatives, Hon Carmel Sepuloni - Minister of Social Development, Judge Grant Fraser - Family Violence Court - Agents of Change, Hon Nikki Kaye - Member of Parliament


Peter Thorburn - Meth Education and Solution Services, Caroline Wilson - A-OK - Life Supporting Conversations, Ben Neho / Patricia Matthews - Mahitahi - Te Awa Ora, Ranche Johnson / Natasha Kauika-Stevens - Manurewa Marae, Kyrin Bhula / Dee Gulliver - Private Practise - Reconceptualising Resilience, Brad Hook - Resilience Institute - Bounce, Grow, Connect & Flow

Panel Discussion

Anne Wilkie (Police/Social Investment); Dr Monique Faleafa (Le Va); Patricia Matthews (Mahitahi Trust); Tony Kake (Papakura Marae); Christopher Law (MSD); Julie Moore (Graeme Dingle Foundation)

See New Zealand Family Violence Clearinghouse for upcoming events.

Access publications and resources including the library and New Zealand Family Violence Clearinghouse - Recommended reading on family and whānau violence from the New Zealand Family Violence Clearinghouse

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