If you are suffering from the post holiday blues, now the kids are back at school and you are back into routine, then the tips here will raise your spirits! How to dress for your new body shape and if you are fighting cravings whilst trying to lose weight, then discovering if you are an abstainer or moderator will help you.
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Welcome to September 2014 Newsletter


  • Post Holiday Blues?
  • Dressing for your new body after weight loss.
  • Are you a Moderator or an Abstainer?
  • Inspirational Thought for the Month -


Have you got the Post Holiday Blues?

I know I have! The kids went back to school yesterday; no more care free days; no more late nights; no more lie ins; no more sunny days on the beach or swimming in the sea; no more drinking wine and lazy BBQ's - I can feel my energy going down just writing this.

It feels like all the fun is over and it's back to work; homework; ironing and routine. If you feel like this too, what can you do to raise your spirits and your mood as you move forward into Autumn?

Firstly, just remind yourself, that the feeling of "flatness" or the "post holiday blues" is actually more common that you probably think. The thoughts of shifting up a gear again after the holidays can initially be quite daunting. However, my experience is that once you get back into the swing of things, it is usually better than you anticipate. The following tips below may just help your mindset around the post holiday blues:

1) Book in some things in the next few weeks that your really enjoy: it may be seeing a good friend and catching up after the holidays; inviting friends over for dinner and having a bit of a party evening; booking a lovely massage (If you live local to Sutton, Surrey then I'd recommend my colleague: Munira Rasul; or even during the week, stopping work at a reasonable time and watching a "feel good film" or reading a "holiday type book". Give yourself a bit of a "holiday feeling" during the routine of your week.

2) I know I talk about this an awful lot, but keeping a gratitude journal is also a good way of raising your spirits. Writing down all the good things that are in your life right now, including all the lovely things that you have been doing doing the Summer - this will connect you with all the positive, happy and good things in your life and re-activate some of those feel good memories and feelings too.

3) I am a great believer in living in the present moment -  the power of now! However, at the end of the Summer I often find it really useful to think about and start planning towards all the lovely events and things I love and look forward to in the seasons of Autumn and Winter - things like long walks and kicking up the autumn leaves, to wrapping up warm and being by the sea, to celebrating my son's birthday (November) to the obvious of Christmas and the festive season. Remembering that each season has it's own nuggets of gold and joy, can really help me move forward post Summer, with a sense of anticipation and joy.
Dressing your your New Body after Weight Loss

 Here is another great article from my friend and colleague Susannah Hebden Moore, helping you to build confidence in dressing your new body shape after losing weight. Susannah is also planning to run some workshops in Epsom, Surrey for ladies who have lost weight and want to learn how to dress for their new shape. If you would like to enter a draw to win a free place on one of these super workshops, then all you have to do is fill out the short questionnaire here: Questionnaire and Susannah has kindly offered 5 free places to my readers and clients which will be picked at random from those that enter from here on this link. So  If you are interested and would like to benefit from a free workshop on this subject, then please just click on the questionnaire and fill it in It's only 3 easy questions which will help her to plan her workshop to address exactly what you feel you would need.

In the meantime, here are some of her tips for styling your new body:

If you are dressing a new body shape, following weight loss, you need to take stock of this new body of yours and really get to know it. The tips below will help you to do get to know your new shape:
  • Stand in front of a full length mirror in just your undies and really look at yourself. This may make you feel uncomfortable to start with but stick with it – you need to take ownership of your new body.
  • Don’t expect everything to be perfect – very few people have bodies they are totally happy with. The trick is to focus in on the bits you like, be it your legs, waist, bottom, décolletage. These are the bits we’re going to show off!
  • Before even thinking about going shopping its important you clear your wardrobe of all your ‘fat’ clothes. Get rid of everything that doesn’t fit anymore however scary that may be. If you keep them you are subconsciously giving yourself a safety net in case you regain the weight.
  • Now for the fun bit – start thinking about the sort of clothes you really like. It may be that before weight loss you were restricted by the styles you felt you could wear, but now the shops rails are your oyster! Go through magazines, websites, newspapers. Create a mood board or start a folder of all the clippings so you really start to get a feel for the sort of styles you like.

Are you an abstainer or a moderator?
Think of foods that you  find very tempting and perhaps that you know you overindulge in or sabotage yourself with:
chocolate, cakes, crisps, peanuts, wine, whatever.

You may find it interesting to learn that there are two types of people when it comes to food temptations:

Abstainers and moderators.

Abstainers- In order to avoid those temptations abstainers need to go "cold turkey". They can't do just one biscuit or half a bag of crisps. They are the one's who will eat the whole packet or biscuits, the whole bag of crisps and won't stop at one cup cake!

Moderators, on the other hand, are the sort of people who can have just one square of dark chocolate and feel satisfied. They cannot cope with deprivation and their motto is "a little of what you fancy is good for you!"

If they try to abstain completely the food that they love will occupy their thoughts. Moderators feel rebellious if they’re not allowed to have just a little bit.

Since part of what makes people unhappy when trying to lose weight, is trying to resist temptation and cravings for your favourite foods, it helps to know whether you’re an abstainer or a moderator.

Knowing this is your pattern or type means that you can create a strategy for dealing with these temptations that works best for you. Hence, you will handle temptation better and therefore have a greater chance of success.

Those people that are abstainers tend to fare better on "diets", as long as they can maintain the abstinence post diet, which often means a huge lifestyle shift (which can be challenging.)  For moderators an 80/20 principle like I advocate on the "diet buddy" programme can work very successfully and help them achieve their weight loss goals whilst still having a "little of what they fancy." If you are a Moderator and you would like to find out a bit more about the "DIET BUDDY" on-line weight management programme, then take a look here: "DIET BUDDY"
Inspirational Thought for the Month
"Your mind is a garden, your thoughts are the seeds.
You can grow flowers or you can grow weeds!"

- Author unknown

This is so true. Your thoughts totally define your experience day to day about life. If you think negative thoughts, then your experience of life will be largely negative. If you think more positively, then you will focus on the positive and your overall experience of life will be more positive. Now this is not some "Polly Anna" type of approach. We all know that bad things, challenging things, curve balls, call it what you like can happen in life. Often we cannot change what happens: things like getting made redundant, a husband having an affair, divorce, illness,  people we love dying etc (these are some of my personal challenges I have had to face over the years) - these are often events over which we have limited control and certainly it is sometimes very tough to deal with these types of life challenges. However, what we can control is our attitude, mindset and thoughts about these events. It's not always easy, but with practice it is possible and it makes for a different experience - a garden full of flowers and limited weeds!
So that's it for now, don't forget to fill in Susannah's questionnaire to be entered into the draw for a free style workshop. Enjoy September and I look forward to catching up with you in October.
With warm wishes

Maria x

Maria Furtek
Integrative Hypnotherapist, IEMT Practitioner, NLP Master Practitioner & Coach, working with you to:
“Take the Weight off Your Mind!”

0208 395 5471/ 07932 637393
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