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As a parent, you probably have a desire to make holidays special for your children. You may also have to overcome certain obstacles in creating your own special experiences with your children, such as finances, distance from family members, and the unique circumstances created by divorce, step-parenting, and blended families. Many parents work overtime during the holidays only to find they are frustrated by the experience and doubtful that the end "result" was particularly meaningful to their children. While it's difficult to determine exactly what “special” means to any one child, here are some guidelines which might apply to your family.
·      Develop traditions - Create activities that are special to your family. They don’t need to be elaborate or expensive, but they do need to be enjoyable and reflective of your family. Traditions can be as simple as a special recipe that everyone associates with the family holiday. Some family holiday meals consist of recipes that the parents enjoyed when they were children or foods that are reflective of their culture. The opportunity for everyone to participate in the preparation of the meal might become part of a tradition. Traditions can naturally develop around certain activities, such as finding a Christmas tree. Once formed, these traditional activities contribute to a sense of identity and uniqueness for your children about their family holiday.
·      Keep the scope of your plans within the scope of your resources. Holidays are double duty for most parents. What parent hasn't wondered where the extra time will come from to shop, wrap presents, cook, and plan and attend special events? Be realistic about the scope of your plans. If you are hurried and stressed, your personal contribution to your children's holiday may be your short temper and irritability rather than your patience and enthusiasm.
·      Help your children understand the value and the meaning of the holidays. Don't rely upon others to convey the meaning to your children; do it yourself. Talking about your own personal meaning is important. If the holidays are a religious experience for you, show that by your religious practice; if it's a sharing experience, provide your child an opportunity to share; if it's mainly a family reunion experience, provide an opportunity for a family gathering.
·      Be sensitive to your children's wishes. This is the time of year when it's difficult to avoid the many conflicting issues between parents and children. This is often true when children become teen-agers and the value of family time changes. Blended and divorced families pose special challenges for the holidays. Children often lose the excitement of the holidays and instead feel the demands of making all their parents happy. If you anticipate any of these circumstances, plan ahead. Discuss with your teenagers how they and you will spend their time. Communicate with your child's other parent to determine how your child's time will be spent. For example, two Christmas celebrations might be fine, but most children will resist two Thanksgiving dinners. Changing homes late at night on Christmas Eve may be confusing and stressful to young children.
·      Have fun yourself. Don't expect perfection. Remember, just as your child doesn't need or want a perfect parent, neither do they need a perfect holiday... just a good enough day will do.
Resource:  “Tips for Parents: Making Holidays Special,” Jan Levinson Gilman, PH.d.

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