“Find joy in
everything you choose to do.
Every job, relationship, home...
it's your responsibility
to love it, or change it.”
Good evening, my dear <<Name>>. I know that I am later than usual sending you this love note. To be honest, the closer we get to the election the more I am at a loss as what to share with you here.
I've followed every election since the Gerald Ford / Jimmy Carter election and I can't remember one that felt so contentious and divided people as much. I know I am not the only person disturbed by the state of politics these days. And with the election a mere nine days away, none of us will be getting a break from that in the coming days.
Almost from the time I began writing online (back in 2001), I made it a personal policy - as well as a professional one - to keep all discussions of politics private.
Since opening my coaching practice, especially, that's important. Because if I get involved in trying to ensure you know my opinions, if you are a client - or potential client - it would keep me from being a neutral person that is on YOUR side. My job is to serve as a witness and invite you to figure out what YOU think and believe.
And also, my job here - whether you are a client or not - is to help you find a way to reduce your stress and anxiety levels. To assist you in figuring out what's in the way of loving yourself and your life so that you can take actions to fix it. Whatever "it" may be.
If you're a long-time subscriber, you probably know that I believe that we are always in choice. And despite that, it's something that I do have to remind myself of often. Sometimes, several times a day.
So, I'm going to ask you to do something for me - that's really for your own tender heart - and that's to seek something each and every day that brings you joy. Dive into your memories and remember good moments (like the last trip we made to Disney World).
Yes, I know that it's a tall order for many of you. Maybe for most of you. Because in many ways we've been conditioned to feel guilty if we feel happiness or joy when the outside world is anything but joyful.
Maybe I should have said I challenge you - or if we were children I would dare you....NO! DOUBLE DOG DARE YOU to find something beautiful or joyful each and every day.
Because when we seek something and look for something - we are more likely to find it.
If you are partnered up or have a family, begin playing a game at the dinner table to talk about the best part of the day. And if you live alone, commit to sharing a moment of joy or silliness with a friend. Even if you have to do it via text or video chat.
Right now, we need the support of other souls to help us see the light in the world. And if you find that you are at a place where you feel centered and seeking joy has become a habit, then you can shine your light out towards others.
You deserve to have moments of joy within the most challenging of days. Just because others are unhappy doesn't mean that YOU have to be unhappy, too. And even on crappy days, finding a ray of light gives you the invitation to turn things around.
Seek the joy and beauty in the world. Find something humorous. Turn a beautiful memory over and over again in your mind.
As I did in my last love note, I am going to skip a blog post and go straight to a comforting recipe.
Please continue to take care of yourself. Reach out if you need me. And, as always, I am sending you love.