Undone Tasks and Evolution
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“ A task left undone remains
undone in two places —
at the actual location of the task,
and inside your head.
Incomplete tasks in your head consume
the energy of your attention
as they gnaw at your conscience.

Brahma Kumaris

What a fabulous fall Saturday, darling  <<Name>>! How are things in your neck of the woods? Have you turned on the furnace yet? Though it's been on the edges of needing heat at our house, I've opted for sweaters and sweatshirts so far. There's something really delicious about needing a sweater or tossing a knit throw over my legs to ward off the chill.

I have, however, done all the prep work for the cold season: changed the furnace filter, changed the water panel for the humidifier, and turned all the fireplaces on to burn off the dust. I've also been making other preparations: shifted the long-sleeved clothes to the top racks, changed the background on my computer to "fall" images, and put away my summer dish towels for fall ones.

In the midst of all of these little tasks, I realized I had another half-dozen of little things that needed to be done: replace a couple of light bulbs, clean out the pantry, order replacement filters for the vacuum cleaner, and more. There are also several little things that need to be done on my website. It was time to create a new list of "incompletes and undones", something I've done on and off for the last several years.

Why? Because it allows me to hone my focus.  Because it allows me to funnel my energy towards what matters the most. Because when I am feeling bored or restless or overwhelmed, this list allows me to move through the muck and get done what I is playing around in the back of my mind.

When I send you this little love note about what is happening in my world....and sharing with you the things that work to move me from feeling icky or frustrated to feeling centered and love....I hope that you find some encouragement and nourishment.

So, there ARE other things going on in my world, too. After being in space of being here in Ohio for almost a decade, learning how leaning into comfort is helpful, and feeling settled here, a new phase of evolution is upon me. I'm not quite sure what's on the other side of this upcoming change, I just know that I'm excited and scared.

Excited because I know that as a spiritual being, I am meant to grow and change, especially when the desire is to go deeper into who I'm meant to be  And what I am meant to create in this world. But, damn, it's scary, too. Because it's a change, and no matter how welcome a change may be, it's uncomfortable.

When life is uncomfortable, it's tempting to stand still and try to make the world stop spinning. The OLD me would have ignored what was on the horizon, visited my hair dresser and changed my hair color.  A way to control the change and distract myself.  But not anymore.

No, from experience,  I know that what's on the other side of evolution is so worth the fear and the pain. Now, I know that a new hair color isn't the answer. No, it's time to lean into the excitement.  And rely upon my tools, like that list of incomplete tasks and undone stuff.  Because, baby, if you want to allow new things in your life, then you have to clear up the old stuff and move away from what doesn't serve who you're become.

I'm not quite sure what this is going to mean for me yet. But the one thing I do know is that it's rooted in love and my core belief that we are meant to live a daily life that nourishes us.

And I'm so thankful that you are a part of this journey into becoming me. An important part of growth is having witnesses to that growth. It's why our partners, close friends, and coaches are so important. Part of my style of coaching and being is to show you the imperfect and vulnerable sides of who I am. Because this allows you to see that life doesn't have to be controlled and perfect.

So, what about you, <<Name>>? Where are you in the phase of growth in your life? Are you settling into the comfort and recovery stage of evolution? Or are you on the edges of change? Or maybe, just maybe, you've found yourself in a similar space as me: smack in the middle of a growth spurt.  

Are you ready to allow the beautiful process to unfold to what's on the other side or are you trying to distract yourself?  How can I help you become the shiniest, sexiest version of who you're meant to be as we approach a new decade?

Remember that I'm just an email away. I love hearing your stories and helping you find the resources you need to create a life you love.

With so much love...........

PSS - I am taking ONE or Two new clients this fall  If you want to chat to see if we're a good fit, book a Discovery Session.  

From the blog:  Fall Cleaning to Nourish Your Mind, Body, and Soul

Sometimes, the seasons bleed into each other without much fanfare. Sure, as Fall arrives you may grab that Pumpkin Spice Latte (or is that Pumpkin Spice Everything?). But the thing is, unlike cultures of the past, there isn’t a lot of rituals of transitioning from one season to the next. And while you might think that spring cleaning is the only time to use a deep cleaning as a ritual of sorts to shift seasons, that’s not the only case. In fact, I almost think we need fall cleaning even more.

See, tending your home is a way to send a signal to your mind that you’re preparing for what’s next. It’s an act of love and kindness as you remind yourself that you are the queen (or king) of your abode. And I know I’m not the first person to remind you that as the seasons shift, our bodies need different care. So, just like you pull out sweaters for those cooler nights, your home can be the catalyst for doing good things for your body.

And how can I fail to remind you that any activity done with thought, kindness, and love can be a holy act. Fall cleaning done as a conscious act also sends the signal that you are connected to something more. And no, I’m not talking about the connection to more folks on Instagram. I’m talking about that deeper connection to your own soul.

Beyond a deep cleaning, here’s some tips, tricks, and ideas on how to parlay fall cleaning as a way to nourish your mind, body, and soul.

Fall Cleaning for your Mind:
  • When you dig into every nook and cranny you are able to take an inventory and put things where they belong.
  • Fall cleaning your home invites you to make a list of repairs that need to done.
  • It’s a great way to fuel ideas and evaluate your rooms for redecorating.  A great project for winter when it’s too cold to be outside.  (Also, January is typically when most stores run their “white sales” on home goods like linens.)
  • A clean house will make you feel more relaxed and provide a better environment for reading, thinking, and dreaming.
  • Love to throw holiday parties?  Put your mind at ease of the last minute hustle and bustle of whipping your house in shape for company by doing it now.  When it’s time for your guests, you’ll just need to give the house a lick and a promise.
  • Fall cleaning of closets gives you the opportunity for gift ideas for your loved ones. Doing so in a thoughtful way now can help you avoid overbuying as it get’s closer to the holidays.
  • Cleaning out your closet in the fall gives you the opportunity to shed clothes you didn’t wear last fall or winter and helps you evaluate what you need for the colder months.
  • Donations to Goodwill are tax deductible and need to be done before December 31st. So, do it now in the fall!
  • Hiring someone to help with – or do – some heavy cleaning stimulates the economy.
  • While you’re cleaning your physical space, pause to take five minutes to declutter your mind with a brain dump.
Fall Cleaning Reminders For Your Body
  • Cleaning is good exercise.
  • The physical removal of excess items in your life – old computers, clothes that don’t fit, and unused appliances – is even better exercise.
  • Think of your fridge as a display box for meals. Having an organized, sanitized, sparkling clean fridge can help you make healthier eating choices.
  • Fall cleaning your home frees it from mold, mildew, dust and bugs.  These things can wreak havoc on your health, especially with cold and flu season around the corner.
  • The removal of excess clutter in your home reduces the chance of household injuries from trips and falls.
  • Just as you made a list of repairs for your mind, this is also beneficial for your body as it allows you to get on top of any spaces that are letting in drafts. So, don’t forget a walk around the outside of your home, too.
Fall Cleaning is Good For Your Soul
  • Stuff has psychic weight.  De-cluttering your space to only what you love will  make your heart feel lighter.
  • When your surroundings are serene, your soul will be able to create.
  • Sunlight is precious in the winter months.   Fall cleaning will mean your space will embrace sun-kissed air.
  • As you prepare for a new season, it allows your soul to shift.
  • The holidays are coming – and coming fast!  Creating clean, uncluttered spaces allows you to focus on the spiritual side of the season.
  • Planning for a new decade (hello 2020!) is easier to do when you can connect to your heart – instead of being distracted by mess and clutter.

If a full out deep cleaning for fall holds no appeal, may I suggest you deep clean – and de-clutter – just three vital spaces?

For your Mind – Clean your desk

This is where you work.  This is where you create.  Give yourself the gift of clean, uncluttered space.  Clean out your drawers.  File all your papers.  Dust and polish the surfaces.  Clean your computer, including your keyboard.

For your Body – Clean Your Kitchen.

Every meal that nourishes you and your family begins here.  Stress eating is common for folks, especially during the holiday season.  Having a clean, organized kitchen will encourage you to make better choices.

For your Soul – Clean Your Closet.

Every piece of clothing you wear says something about your sense of style.  Your sense of style creates your personal brand. Bring your winter clothes to the front of your closet and the summer clothes to the back. Remove everything off of shelves and give them a good dusting.  If you haven’t worn it in a year, toss it.  If it doesn’t fit, toss it. Then when you go to get dressed each day, you have a serene space of items for the amazingly perfect canvas: you.

Though fall cleaning may seem an overly simple way to love your life, I can promise you that giving some time and attention to your physical space will work wonders in finding ways to love yourself and your life.

PS - Want to do a deeper dive into Fall Cleaning and prepare for the upcoming holiday season? 30 Days to Clarity: Clutter Busting begins on Oct. 20th!

I've been trying to get more veggies into my lunch lately, but salads are too summery. So I've been experimenting with soup. Yes, I could open a can of soup...but there is so much sodium in even the low sodium soups.

Then, my experiments led to a delicious discovery that hit my desire for something warm and lots of veggies: pan roasted cauliflower soup.

Dice one yellow or red onion and 1/2 of a red, yellow, or orange bell pepper.

Chop a head of cauliflower into smallish pieces.

In your Dutch oven or large pot, add enough olive oil to cover the bottom of the pan.  Add bell pepper, onion and 1/2 teaspoon of salt. Saute for about three minutes. Add the cauliflower and saute on high until cauliflower florets begin to get a light sear on them.

Then add 3 cups of chicken stock (use this recipe if you want to add some collagen)  (or you can use vegetable stock if you prefer a vegan option) and bring to a boil, then reduce heat to low.  Simmer for 25 minutes.

Remove from heat and add fresh ground pepper to taste. You can use an immersion blender to puree the soup or carefully transfer the soup into your blender and puree. (HOT soup, be careful not to overfill your blender!)

Serve as is..or if you want to add anything more, consider adding a sprinkle of sharp cheddar before serving.

I've already made two batches since the local cauliflower came into season....

You can easily double this recipe and this soup freezes beautifully (for up to 6 months).

Volume 9-Issue 21

October 12, 2019

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