Nothing in life is certain, my dear. Well, except the seasons ;-)
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“Life isn't about
waiting for the storm to pass.
It's about learning how
to dance in the rain.”

--Vivian Greene

Good morning and Happy Saturday, <<Name>>! I don't know about you, but I am trying to get out and enjoy Clock Towerthe summer as much as possible. Earlier this week, I made my way over to Carillon Park here in Dayton to have a different space to do my daily walk.  AND I even climbed the clock tower.

But I have to admit: looking at the calendar is shocking me a little. 

Can you believe that we are midway through August and
on the edges of Labor Day? t won't be long until everywhere we look we see "Pumpkin Spice" Everything.

Who are we kidding? I think Pumpkin Spice shows up earlier and earlier each year - long before autumn arrives. It seems to always be in the 90's when Starbucks comes out with their PSL (and all the other chains either follow quickly or try to beat them them to the punch!)

One thing I love about the shifting seasons is that it's the only bit of certainty in life. No matter how It's always somethinghot or mild the summer may be, it will eventually be followed by Autumn. The hot days will eventually become cooler. The days will become noticeably shorter. And the light will begin to soften, even on the brightest days.

It's nice to have the general certainty of the seasons, because otherwise in life, it's always something, right?

We got to deal with one of those somethings last week.

Yes, that is a baby excavator in our front yard. Brought in by the irrigation folks to fix a water leak. 

Yes, my friends, there's nothing more unexpected than a major home repair, you know?

And the thing is: you just have to roll with it. Because it's simply a fact of life: things happen. And when you own a home or a car or have kids or simply go about living life, the unexpected will happen.

What matters, of course, is how we react to it. And looking for the bright spots in the inevitable challenges. And though it took a lot of time to deal with the problem (not to mention the cost), I am grateful that we doesn't that look fun?found the problem pretty quickly (rather than getting a super high water bill).

AND I was incredibly grateful that I had folks to call that knew how to fix the problem. And with attitudes of kindness and humor.

And there's also the relief that the problem is FIXED. By folks who knew what they were doing. AND looked to reduce as many problems as possible in the future.

It also made me super grateful that we'd made some changes this year to a new landscaping company that's more professional and more responsive. Their irrigation folks are SO much better than the folks we used to use.

So, though we can rely upon the seasons to come and go, other parts of life will never be certain. And, flowers at carillon parkhonestly, if we understand this, it makes life so much more enjoyable.

What about you? Are you getting outside and enjoying the summer?

Have you noticed the shortening of days and softening of light yet?

What good have you been able to find in the unexpected? And what would accepting the reality that stuff happens allow you to roll with? What allows you to feel loved and grateful?

What do you need to shift before Fall to feel more nourished and supported?

Is there more love and simply sexy moments in your life that you're missing because you're so busy trying to ensure that life always goes as planned?  What can I do to help? 

I love hearing your stories and helping you find the resources you need to create a life you love.

With so much love...........


From the blog: Live to Love Your Life So You Can Be Happier or at Least Less Grouchy.

No matter who you are, there are going to be days (or weeks or months) where life kinda sucks. In the back of your mind is that you just want to be happy. Yet, if you were to be honest, you’d settle for things being even a little big better. Though it won’t solve things overnight, what if I told you the trick was to go in with the attitude to live to love your life?

Because it’s so easy to let a bad day become a series of days where you walk around grumpy and irritated. However, my darling, the secret the being less grouchy and finding some solace in your daily life is to change your mindset. Because, of course, you only have one life, right? So you may as well go in with the attitude to live to love your life. Right?

What is the meaning of love the life you live?

It was Bob Marley who said ” love the life you live. live the life you love.” But that doesn’t mean you need to play reggae and go to Jamaica to be happy.

What the phrase “love the life you live” means to find the beauty in your life rather than judging it against the lives of others. While I believe that you can use envy to open your eyes to what you really desire, what’s more important is that you stop believing that others have a better life than you.

So, if you can remind yourself of this as a mantra: love the life you live and live the life you love, you’ll find it can help shift your attitude and your thinking. Because as I often share, your thoughts help create your reality.

Here are Six Ways to Be a Little Happier and Live to Love Your Life

The question here arises how to live to love your life? Let’s discuss some main things which will clear your thoughts regarding this question!

One – A Positive Attitude Will Go a Long Way Towards Being Able to Live to Love Your Life

Life is not a bed of roses. Here the difficulties come and go which you have to deal appropriately. The best way to spend a remarkable experience is to develop positivity and acceptance in you. Whatever is going on, always think that the better times will come soon after all this. The positivity in thoughts and actions can resolve many problems in life. Try to look good in things and people while making concrete plans for the future. It would have a fantastic effect on yourself as well as people around you.Besides, a positive attitude will always lead to days when you feel less cranky.

Two – Focus on the Present Rather Than the Past

It is essential to live the present time as it is the most precious time of your life. The people and moments you have in current time may disappear in the future. Often, we stress ourselves out by ruminating over the past. And, darling, you cannot change the past. So, when you choose to live to love yoru life as it is now, it opens the path to being, if not ecstatic, at least a little happier.
Taking lessons from past mistakes is good, but don’t lament on them always and start loving your life by living in a moment and enjoying what you have.

Three – Live to Love Your Life by Unconditionally Loving Yourself

Loving yourself will always go a long way towards being happier. Because, my dear, when you love yourself as you are, it allows you to better connect to what you want in life from a space of awareness not self-judgement.
While I know it’s not always easy to dismiss your inner critic, befriending her will go a long way towards loving yourself.

Four – Life Will Never Be Certain so Learning to Accept Change Will Lead to Being Happier

Often we delay decisions because we want to be certain. And, make the perfect choice. But, nothing in life is ever a guarantee. And this is only one of the reasons we real against change. Sometimes, we become dissatisfied with life because we feel as if we’ve lost the sweet spot of our “glory days”. It can be challenging to experience happiness when we are disappointed that our life has changed.
But let’s get real: life is always going to change. And despite wishing things could always stay the same, it’s impossible.

When you take the attitude to live to love your life, it helps remind you that nothing is certain, life will always be changing, and that, my dear, is a key to being happier.

Five – Go for a Walk (or Run) if you Want to Feel Less Cranky

One of my go-to subscriptions for a grumpy day is to hit the pavement. Whether you are a runner or a walker, there is something especially grounding about heading out for a walk.

First of all, you are exposing yourself to nature, which researchers found helped patients healed a day faster  simply by seeing it nature out their hospital window. Regular time in nature will help you recharge and heal your body. And your attitude. Secondly, there’s something almost magical about putting the excess negative energy from your body into the earth to absorb it.

Six – Live to Love Your Life by Making Gratitude a Practice

A gratitude practice has been shown to help you form new (positive) pathways in your mind. And if you want to live to love your life, then beginning a gratitude practice will definitely help you change your attitude. Begin first with spending only five minutes a day on gratitude. You can keep it super simple, either in a small notebook or even a stack of index cards. Simply write down three to five things you’re grateful for each day. And, over time, you’ll see the magic in the process.

I’m the first to admit that even when you want to live to love your life, you will have a bad day. That’s because you’re human.

The key to being a little happier, though, is to not allow a grumpy day turn into a series of bad days. And while life will never be all light, love, and flowers every moment, a change in attitude is more helpful than it seems on the surface. Because what you’ll discover is that a little bit happier today goes a long way towards a life of grumpiness or a life of joy.
Ok.  I confess.  I can't live by chicken alone! Always on hand in my fridge?  Boneless Pork Loin.  It's lean, delicious, and chock-full of protein and not a lot of fat.   One of the recipes in my rotation?  Pork Piccata With Lemon and Capers.  Take a one-pound pork tenderloin and cut (against grain) into 1/2-inch slices. 

Combine 3 tablespoons whole-wheat flour with 1/4 teaspoon salt, 1 teaspoon of garlic powder and 1/8 teaspoon black pepper in a shallow dish. Dredge pork. Heat 2 teaspoons olive oil in a large skillet over medium-high heat; add half the pork. Cook until lightly golden, about 2 minutes. Turn and cook 1 minute more; set aside. Repeat with remaining pork, using another 2 teaspoons oil.

Add 6 cloves of minced garlic to empty skillet, stir 20 seconds. Add ½ cup white wine to deglaze the pan and then add ¼ cup no-salt-added broth and cook for about five minutes.  Remove skillet from heat and add  1 tablespoon  unsalted butter, 2 tablespoons freshly squeezed lemon juice, and 4 teaspoons  capers, rinsed,

In a separate skillet, add 1 tablespoon of olive oil and 10-ounces of spinach, 1 teaspoon garlic powder and 1 teaspoon of onion powder until wilted.

Layer spinach on plates, add pork and ladle the sauce on top.  Delicious!

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August 17, 2019

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Your advice has always been spot on…….from helping me see how important it is to be thankful for my blessings to helping me remove physical and emotional clutter from my life. I am actually the most grateful for the times when you have spoken the truth in love and been honest with me when I wanted to continue to delude myself. Without those wise words, I would have continued to lie to myself and not had the breakthroughs I have experienced.

I’m not all I want to be yet but I would have ever found my path had I not met and worked with you. Thank you for your efforts in helping me find my life. I am forever in your debt.

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If I veer off my intended path, Debra has given me the structure, along with the tools to get back on track. Since working with Debra, my life flows more smoothly, I know where I’m heading and I know how to get there.

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