Listen up, buttercup! What is your body telling you?
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“ Intelligence is present
everywhere in our bodies . . .
our own inner intelligence
is far superior to any
we can try to substitute
from the outside ”

Deepak Chopra

How have you been, <<Name>>? If you are in the US, did you celebrate the 4th of July?  We stayed IN as much as possible, only venturing out when the fireworks started, around 9:30 PM.  Because, WOW!  Talk about Mother Nature reminding us that it is indeed summer, we've seen heat indexes near 100. 

Something, I was used to regularly in Texas but a rarity here in Ohio. Even a quick walk to the mailbox can leave you feeling MELTED.

I've forsaken my bike until it cools off a little. I am swimming laps at the pool instead. Laps and reading until I dry off. With this heat, I'm not getting much reading time!

The heat has reminded me how critical it is for us to listen to our bodies. And how we tune out what our bodies are telling us when we get "busy"

We don't feed ourselves until we're starving, and then overeat.  We find ourselves feeling parched and a little headache-y due to dehydration, when we ignored our body's plea for water hours earlier.  And we stay up late to check more off of our to-do lists when we would be better served to just go to bed.

I was reminded of this just Tuesday when I sat at my desk writing while my water glass sat empty...and though my body was saying "I'm thirsty!" my mind kept saying "You can wait."  I listened to my head instead of my body and, sure enough found myself tired and irritable.

Every other day this week, I've filled a pitcher with ice and water and brought it to my office as well. Why don't we think about these easy solutions instead of just ignoring our bodies and our ability to seek simple ways to make life easier?

I have been guilty of not listening to my body more often than not.  So, in addition to fresh water in my office, I'm taking time to eat a lovely breakfast either on the deck or at the breakfast bar. I'm setting a reminder on my phone to have some lunch (because I do often forget to eat lunch).  It's all about the rush of doing this or getting lost in something I'm working on.

What I know is that if I give my body what it needs - good food, lots of water, adequate sleep, movement, quiet and play - then my energy levels stay constant.  Sacrificing what my body needs to listen to the chatter of my mind means that I am more likely to crash and burn mid-afternoon.

You see, our minds can come up with these off the wall ideas that simply aren't truth. Our quest for perfection tries to talk us into checking off all of the "to do" list.  Our tricky minds try to keep us from making too many changes.  Our imagination can render the worst-case scenarios in any situation if we let it run wild.

The trick to life feeling more nourishing overall is to just tune into what we are needing. It keeps energy (and attitude) more consistent.

So, tell me, darling: what about you? Would you like to experiment with me for the rest of the summer? How would it feel to not just tune into what your body is telling you, but following through with action? No more skipping breakfast.  No more waiting until we're starving to eat lunch or dinner (and then eating crap).  No more "holding it" when we need to go to the bathroom.  No more sitting when we need to move. No more waiting until we're parched to have a glass of water. No more scrolling through email or Facebook when we're tired.

How much more delightful would your life feel if you followed your own internal rhythms instead? What simple solutions might there be so you can tune into your body?

Though I'm not visiting your in-box each week  know that I'm just an email away. I love hearing your stories and helping you find the resources you need to create a life you love.

With so much love...........


From the blog: Love Your Life Or Change It? Which One Will Bring You Real Happiness? (Hint It’s BOTH)  You have to admit it: your life is pretty good. You regularly post #blessed as your status along with glamorous shots of your morning coffee. And yet, there are big swaths of time when you’re desperately unhappy. You can’t help but wonder if you should love
your life or change it.

It feels like an overreaction to make big changes to counteract occasional bouts with the blues. You don’t want to be ungrateful after all. Yet if I ask you to be vulnerably honest with yourself, you’d admit that you dream about life being different.

Because those moments of feeling desperately unhappy are weighing on your heart.

You used to be happy most of the time. Now, it’s only about half the time. Loving yourself again is a deep desire. You want to love your life again. Maybe, you think, “I should just settle”. Because the other half of the time, when things are good? They’re really good.

Should you love your life or change it?

My darling, believing that the answer to happiness can only be found by doing one or the other isn’t helping.

What if I were to tell you that the real answer  is to do both? Choose to love your life as it is, warts and all. And then, from that place of love, you begin to make changes.

I know that it can sound counter-intuitive to accept how things in your life are, especially when you’re in the midst of a really crappy day. Those are the moments when you fantasize about sweeping, drastic changes. I also know that everywhere you turn, you’ll read that change doesn’t happen in your comfort zone.

And doesn’t choosing to love your life seem like the comfort zone? Isn’t staying in your comfort zone a form of settling?

I would never tell you to just settle. (Choosing to love your life isn’t the same as settling.) You deserve more than just settling for a life that feels OK.

What I have come to understand is this: the first requirement of any kind of change is acceptance of what your current reality is. By accepting any shortcomings as simple reality, it allows you to eliminate fear and shame. And let’s face it: fear and shame destroy your ability to be happy. Changes or not.

There’s a bonus when you make the powerful decision to first love your life.

It means you are choosing to be happy no matter what your circumstances may be.

The sweetness of acceptance is that when you accept everything in your life as reality, it expands your ability to make smarter changes. Rather than having to choose to love your life or change it, doing both allows you to decide what is working. And then you can make better decisions around what truly needs changing from a space of love.

I also want you to understand that you can only begin where you are. Loving your life as it is now opens the door to creating and curating a life that’s more nourishing. It invites you to set standards for the way you desire to liveWorking with your current reality as a starting point allows you to stop living in reaction mode.

And you know what else? No more wising you could run away and start over. When you choose to accept things as they are and love your life as is, you’ll feel a sense of blessed relief. You can stop presenting a false self to the outside world.

Then, my dear, you make changes to your life that allow you to live on your terms. Your life, your way.

This seemingly oxymoron of choosing first to love your life and then change it allows you to be more discerning about what’s next. It gives you breathing room to decide what you really want to change. And let’s be honest: change takes time. Yes, even those “overnight success” stories you see are the results of time and work.

Choosing to love your life now allows you to enjoy the journey through the changes you choose to make.

Being happy all day, every day is unrealistic. But the choice to love your life and then make changes mean that you can be happier more often. You deserve to live a life that you love. Yes, my darling, that means that you will likely need to make some changes.

Just know that happiness lies in the middle of what is and what could be. When you wonder if you should love your life or change it, remind yourself of this truth. You can love your life as it is now, and love your life through every change you choose to make.

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Note: As I mentioned last month, I will be writing more blog posts than I will be sharing in this bi-weekly love note.  I don't want to inundate you with a wall of text here!

My goal is to be writing twice a week by the end of the summer.

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One of my favorite summer foods has always been fresh corn. Here in Ohio, the local sweet corn just came into season and we're loving it. I love this local corn - it's GMO Free (a biggie in my book).

All the Amish Farmers have been delivering produce, too. Like yellow squash (my Granny called it "crooked neck" squash?

It gives me a super easy side dish that's fresh an delicious.

Begin with a yellow onion.  Not the sweet ones, you want an onion with a bit of a bite to it. Dice it.

Dice one (or two) pieces of squash and heavily season them with Italian Seasonings (or if you don't have the Italian Seasonings in your spice cabinet, use dried basil and dried oregano), freshly grated pepper, and a tiny pinch of kosher salt.  Set aside.

Take a fresh ear of corn (or two if you're feeding more than four) and take the kernels off the cob. (I have a nifty tool for that).

In a heavy bottom skillet, add enough olive oil to coat the bottom of the pan and turn it on high.  If you are feeling sassy, ad a tablespoon of really good butter (I LOVE this pastured butter from Organic Valley) When the oil begins to get hot, add the corn and the onion and saute for about two minutes. Lower the heat to medium and add the seasoned squash, combine it well and put the lid on the pan for about two minutes  until the squash begins to wilt.

If you want to add some greens to your diet, you can also toss in a handful of baby spinach or Swiss Chard leaves. (Kale is too bitter).

If you want something fresh on top, you can throw in a handful of diced scallions (little green onions, the white, light green, and dark green parts!) or some fresh basil.

Some notes: do your best to source non-GMO produce.  You can ensure your produce is not genetically modified if you choose organic products.  You can also sub frozen (not canned) organic corn in this recipe.  But the squash and any greens should be fresh.

Volume 8 -Issue 14

July 07, 2018

Love Notes Published Every-Other-Saturday
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About Debra

Debra Smouse is a writer, life coach, and Tarnished Southern Belle who is on a mission to help people fall in love with their lives.

A native Texan, she resides in Ohio with the Man of her Dreams. Get social with Debra on Twitter, Facebook, and Pinterest.

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Awareness is Worth It!

If you want to create and live a life you love, then you need to dig into who you are and what you really want. It’s all about the mighty power of self-awareness! 

To be honest, it isn't always fun to do, yet it's worth the effort.

Read 18 Powerful Ways Improving Your Self-Awareness Creates The Life You Want over at YourTango
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