Hello Friends, Pastor Trent here.
This morning on the news, I heard a discussion about the likelihood (and arguments against) a baby-boom coming out of the Covid 19 shutdowns. Many are predicting a big boom, others believe it is unlikely because people aren’t sure it is a good time to bring a child into the world.
This discussion didn’t last long, but it morphed into another discussion…that we will likely see a significant rise in the divorce rate. Maybe not immediately, but it is likely.
That made me wonder…why? I guess I understand at some level, but I can say my relationship with Lyn is stronger and better now than it was before. There have been frustrations, but also much laughter. Feelings of cooped-up-ness, but also familiarity. There have been long periods of silence, but also deep and lengthy conversations. We have been married for nearly 31 years but we know each other even better now than we did before March 13, 2020.
But I kept thinking about it and wondering why people are predicting the breakup of more marriages and thereby more families. My only guess would be grievances. Little opportunities to keep score, to drift little by little from one another due to small resentments that add up over time. Of course, there are instances (probably many) of abusive spouses, but those marriages and families usually end up breaking apart with no pandemic, but the assumption is that many will split after we come out of this pandemic.
It seems to me that God has some encouragement in this area of our lives. Whether it between spouses, parents and children, colleagues, friends, neighbors or acquaintances, God gives us a cure for resentment, score keeping and grievances.
Colossians 3: 12-14 (emphasis mine) 12Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. 13Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. 14And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.
It is easy for me to keep score, but if I’m honest, every time I keep score….I’m winning. ☺ But when I decide to “keep no record of wrongs” by “forgiving whatever grievance “ I may have against another, it saves the relationship and changes my heart toward the other person.
I pray our families, marriages, friendships, work relationships, and church relationships do not only survive 2020 but will be strengthened as a result.
In His Grip,