Appreciating our work mates and managing our emotions are two especially useful practices for Rebels. So when we spotted these nifty note pads at the RISD Store, we knew that they were the perfect gift for our rebel friends.
More Conversations, Please
Have you ever read a book about a bad habit and thought, "Oh, NO, that's me!"
I recently heard Sherry Turkle, MIT professor and author of the new book Reclaiming Conversations, talk about how we're destroying our relationships by hiding behind our screens. It's an epidemic. And I plead guilty.
The vast majority of us avoid prefer to use texts, Tweets, emails, and other person-behind-the-screen communications than have an in-person or telephone conversation. Without conversations, our relationships turn into transactions and we lose our capacity for learning, trust building, friendship, and empathy.
Why is this so important for change makers? The first step to creating change is building trusted relationships. This can't be done by hiding behind the safety of our emails, says Sherry.
"People would rather text than talk because there's safety hiding behind the screen," explained Sherry. "Conversations take place in real time and we reveal ourselves in talking together. There's no control. If you'd rather text than talk to someone you might want to ask yourself what you're trying to avoid."
In 2017 I am going spend more time having conversations. Not all will be "good" conversations. Some will be uncomfortable and that's OK, because relationships are messy and talking about change almost always creates discomfort.
As the data in Reclaiming Conversations shows, it's far better to show up as ourselves and listen with a naked heart than hiding away behind a screen.
And there's so much to talk about when we stop hiding.
What Habit Will You Shatter?
In order to change anything you have to change something.
Change does not happen because we wish it or because the universe magically aligns to make it so. It occurs when we make the conscious choice to imagine a better future and then choose the steps that bring us to that very future.
In order for that transformation to take hold -- whether it’s a deeper spiritual practice, a lighter body, more ease when under stress, or a clear devotion to having a lot more fun in life – we have to shatter a habit. We must take the clay that has formed around our day, locking us into the same way, with the same people, holding the same thoughts and feelings, and with a clear strike, knock at least one tiny crack into that clay.
In this way, the old way begins to fall apart. In this way, we move toward a life that breathes.