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  September 2011

Living in Love Every Day Graduations in Camden and Philadelphia

Recent Graduation and Commissioning celebrations for couples completing Living in Love Every Day in the Dioceses of Camden NJ and Philadelphia PA have been joyful and poignant affairs marking another milestone in the life-changing  journey of couples who have experienced the Living in Love Retreat Workshop.
In New Jersey, Dick and Marie Schmitt hosted a graduation for those who completed Living in Love Everyday after the  Living in Love weekend at St Charles Borromeo Catholic Church in Sicklerville back in May 2011.  Fr Vince Orum (pictured below) and pastor Fr. Mike Matveenko of St Charles Borromeo joined in the festivities along with a number of previous graduates who came to share their experience of mentoring with the new mentors.
LLED Graduation Group Sep 2011


Mary and Larry Pursell, Joanne and Mark Miniconzi, Fr Vince Orum, Maureen and Dennis Zisa, Kathy and Ron Feher, Walt and Min Deery, Liz Scarpa, and Dick Schmitt, Tom and Jayne Avery (Absent), Bob Scarpa and Marie Schmitt (missing from picture)

Having Fr Vince Orum  bless each of the couples as they were commissioned to spend their sacramental love in service to the parish was a special treat.  Fr Vince personally attended most of Saturday of Living in Love and even a  session of Living in Love Every Day.  

Fr Vince Blessing Pursells

Fr Vincent Orum, Associate Pastor of Saint Charles Borromeo Catholic Church in Sicklerville, NJ blesses Mary and Larry Pursell as they ask to be commissioned as Mentors for the parish

In Pennsylvania, congratulations to Matt and Mary Ann DeAngelo (St. Anastasia, Newtown Square), Marc and Susan Barbella (St. Thomas of Villanova), Ken and Judi Neeld (St. Patrick’s, Malvern), and John and Neena Ghose (Our Mother of Consolation, Chestnut Hill) who completed Living in Love Every Day on June 12, 2011.  Bob and Ruth Arata were the mentor trainers.  Matt and Mary Ann have already begun mentoring their first engaged couple.  These four couples truly know and embody the power behind the grace of ambition as they continue to enthusiastically witness to the sacrament of Matrimony in their families and parishes.

STV LLED Group Jul 2011
Marc and Susan Barbella, Ken and Judi Neeld, John and Neena Ghose, Matt and Mary Ann DeAngelo, Bob and Ruth Arata

South Africa Wants Living in Love – Airfare Anyone?

When Fr Mickey Genovese OSA recently traveled to South Africa, he met and talked with Sadha and Kogie Devan, local co ordinators for Worldwide Marriage Encounter in Kwazulu Natal South Africa.  Since then, the Devan’s and Feher’s have exchanged emails to explore the possibility of bringing Living in Love to South Africa.  It reminds us of the early days of Marriage Encounter when faced with the reality of exporting the weekend to Australia and later 56 countries around the world.  In order to send presenting couples overseas, we needed to raise money, and so couples were asked to “double their pleasure” and cover the cost of their own weekend plus enough for someone else.  Neither we nor the Devan’s have the financial resources to make this happen, but the desire is there and we pray that the Holy Spirit will intervene and move those who have a heart for evangelization to make a targeted donation toward airfare to send a lead team to Natal.  We estimate the travel cost to be $3000 for one couple.  If you are willing to help support this outreach, please make your pledge by emailing PMRCusa@msn.com or calling 610-640-4105.

Recruiting Push For October Weekends!

St Paul’s Catholic Church in Houston will be the site of the first Living in Love retreat workshop in the great state of Texas, and we are excited about the possibilities.  Located in Nassau Bay, adjacent to the Johnson Space Center, St Paul’s is a large, active parish and a great place to begin.  Heidi Clark, the parish staff person for life-long faitThe three Living in Love weekends scheduled for 15-16 October have been recruiting but we are anxious to double the number of couples currently signed up.  Now is the time to mention the weekend again to those couples whose names you wrote down in your Journal on Sunday afternoon of your weekend. Couples in the Delaware Valley can choose between St Thomas of Villanova and St Rita in Bellmawr, NJ.  Couples in the Ann Arbor or Detroit areas of Michigan can register for Our Lady of Good Council in Plymouth.
Additional weekends are scheduled for St Charles Borromeo in Sicklerville, NJ on 12-13 November and Christ the King Catholic Church in Ann Arbor, MI on 5-6 November.
Anyone with friends or relatives in the Houston, TX metropolitan area, it’s not too early to alert them to the opportunity to experience Living in Love on 5-6 November at St Paul’s Catholic Church. 
Register online at www.livinginlove.org.

Recent Articles in Camden Paper Highlight Mentoring experience!

Two articles appearing in the 23 September issue of the Catholic Star Herald, Diocese of Camden, NJ. captured the excitement and enthusiasm of both mentor couples and engaged couples who have experienced Preparing to Live in Love.
One article featured Meghan and Drew Silich who were married in 2010 and commented, “ We thought we knew each other, but through the homework and discussions, stuff came out that was eye-opening.  What we learned at one session “marinated” over the week between sessions and we grew from it as a couple.”  Meghan added, “ I had no idea that marriage was a vocation and that our “job” was to love each other.  That was new to me.  Drew went to Catholic school and kind of knew that , but now we both have that vision for our marriage.”

Drew and Megan Silich

Drew and Meghan Silich
Pennsauken, NJ

A second article featured two mentor couples who experienced Living in Love, Living in Love Every Day and have mentored their first engaged couple, all within the last 10 months.  David and Catherine Earp talked about their decision to mentor saying, “After the weekend, we decided to continue the eight session small group ‘Living in Love Every Day’ which is also the training for becoming a mentor. Mentoring sounded like a great idea, but for someone else.  It wasn’t until the end of the course that we felt confident in sharing this material with engaged couples.  Now we are looking forward to our next opportunity to mentor an engaged couple!”
 David and Catherine Earp
  David and Catherine Earp and Family
Christ the King, Haddonfield, NJ
 Kent and Nancy Van Amburg attended Living in Love hoping to meet people who shared their belief in strong marriages, and they saw the small group sessions of Living in Love Every day as a way to build a small faith community in their parish.  “We had a blast! We all hated to see it end.  Every session built on the weekend and gave us practical tools.  We loved it,” said Nancy.  With regard to mentoring, Kent added, “I think we helped the engaged couple see a different side of the church – the human side – along with the importance of faith.  In a way, we mentors are ‘marriage missionaries’ in a world where marriage is under attack.  We are here to uphold the sanctity of the sacrament of marriage and to let that be known in the world.”
 Nancy and Kent Van Amburg 
Nancy and Kent Van Amburg
Church of the Incarnation, Mantua, NJ

Thanks to Mary Ann Chezik who interviewed the couples and wrote the articles.  She did a fantastic job!  If you would like to read the articles in their entirety, please follow this link: 

Camden Star Herald Articles 23 Sep

Annual Fundraising Coming in October!

Everyone can be a part of the mission to marriage simply by supporting Living in Love through the Pastoral and matrimonial Renewal Center (PMRC).  All our programs are made available at significantly discounted cost so that every couple may participate.  Whenever finances are an issue, we offer full and partial scholarships upon request so that no one will ever be able to say, “We could not afford to go.”
Every couple deserves the opportunity to live in love as a gift from the church, but the only way we can do so is to ask those who have already benefited to make a financial contribution to the PMRC so that others may also benefit
We are grateful to the couples who now include the PMRC in their plans for charitable giving and write an annual check or even set up a monthly direct deposit.  In this concrete way, we join in and make possible the vision for empowering the sacrament of matrimony in our midst.
Please, watch for a mailing during the month of October, and be as generous as you can.  If you are ready today, simply write a check to PMRC and mail it to PO Box 2304, Southeastern, Pa 19399.  Thank you!

World Meeting of Families 2012

Dear Colleagues:

We’re pleased to let you know that the registration process has begun for the Seventh World Meeting of Families to be held May 30-June 3, 2012 in Milan. The theme is “Family: Work and Celebration.”  More detailed information, including the opportunity to register online, is available at the WMF website, www.family2012.com.
The World Meeting of Families is convened by the Holy Father and sponsored by the Pontifical Council for the Family in collaboration with the host dioceses—in this case, the Archdiocese of Milan. These meetings were first promoted by Blessed Pope John Paul II beginning in 1994 and have occurred at three-year intervals since then.
The structure of the meeting is in two parts. The first involves a series of lectures and presentations aimed at those who are engaged in education and pastoral ministry with couples and families. This part runs from May 30 through June 1. The second part begins on the evening of June 1 and concludes on Sunday, June 3. It includes festive national gatherings, a prayer vigil and testimonials, and the celebration of the Eucharist. Pope Benedict XVI is expected to join the meeting on Friday and to preside at the vigil on Saturday and the closing Mass on Sunday.
The USCCB will send an official delegation headed by Bishop Kevin Rhoades, Chairman of the Committee on Laity, Marriage, Family Life and Youth. We welcome additional U.S. participation from dioceses, lay movements and organizations, and families. Marriage and family life ministers, pro-life leaders, and coordinators of natural family planning will find the gathering of particular interest.
If you decide to attend, please let us know so that we can share information before the event and connect with each other during the event itself. If you have questions or need further information please contact Sheila Garcia (202-541-3041, SGarcia@usccb.org) or Theresa Notare (202-541-3192, TNotare@usccb.org).
Thank you for your ministry on behalf of married couples and families. May God continue to bless you and those with whom you minister.

H. Richard McCord, Ed.D.
Executive Director
Secretariat of Laity, Marriage, Family Life and Youth


Living in Love Weekends Coming Up!

8-9 Oct: Holy Trinity, Honolulu, HI

15-16 Oct: Our Lady of Good Council, Plymouth, MI

15-16 Oct: St Thomas of Villanova, Rosemont, PA

15-16 Oct: St Rita, Bellmawr, NJ

12-13 Nov: St Charles Borromeo, Sicklerville, NJ

19-20 Nov: Basilica of San Albino, Mesilla, NM

Please Pray for Presenting Teams!

Please pray for each of the couples who will be making Living in Love for the first time in the coming weeks and for those who will be facilitating the weekends for them.

Holy Trinity, Honolulu, HI
8-9 Oct
Ed and Betty Coda

St Thomas of Villanova, Rosemont, PA
15-16 Oct
David and Stephanie D’Arcangelo
Mike and Patty Boken
Mark and Megan Schrieber
John and Marie Kelly

Our Lady of Good Counsel. Plymouth, MI
15-16 Oct
Steve and Audrey Monaghan
Dick and Stephanie Giba
Joe and Valerie Bozzo
Tom and Jeanne Stevenson
Steve and Jasmin Walker

St Rita, Bellmawr, NJ
15-16 Oct
Ron and Kathy Feher
Allen and Alex O’Rourke

St Charles Borromeo, Sicklerville NJ
November 12 -13
Dick and Marie Schmitt
Larry and Mary Pursell

Decoding the TOB: Communio Personarum?

 “[T]he body through its own visibility…enables man and woman, right from the beginning, to communicate with each other according to that communio personarum willed by the Creator precisely for them.”1  Remember the moment you realized you wanted to spend the rest of your life with the man/woman who had captured your heart and who would become your spouse? Blessed John Paul II reminds us that God intended that moment, that unique communio personarum (communion of persons), right from the very beginning. Take time today to tell each other how grateful you are that you were dreamed of and intended for each other in the mind and heart of God!

[1] John Paul II, Blessed, Man and Woman He Created Them: a Theology of the Body, trans. Michael Waldstein, (Boston: Pauline Books and Media, 2006), 12:5, 176.
©2011 Stephanie T. Giba

What have You Done For Your Marriage Lately?

Share your little everyday kindnesses, sacrifices, and playfulness as an inspiration to others to go out of their way to make their spouse feel loved.
Choose to Marry Every Day! – Our wedding vows were so powerful when we spoke them with such sincerity and emotion on our wedding day.  We promised ourselves and our lives for all eternity, and we meant it!  But, too often, those vows are only part of that well-remembered day. 
A simple practice that will remind us that “marrying” is an ongoing process and help us to choose behaviours that make our vows a lived reality this day is to speak your wedding vows either privately or to each other every day.  Some people like to say the exact words they spoke at their wedding during their private prayer time, or sometime during the day simply speak the message in their hearts in a simple way like, “I choose you , today!” or “I am yours and you are mine!”
It reminds me who I am (husband/wife), to whom I belong, and how I promised and desire to live my life every day.


“Sexy, Saint or Sinner” - A You Tube video worth watching

Photos Needed: 

wedding or engagement photos, happy couples of all ages, happy teens, and candid family shots.

We recognize that the colorful layouts of our PMRC program materials are attractive but already becoming out of date.  We also know that all of our Living in Love couples are gorgeous; so, there is no need to hire models!  Please consider sending us some of your personal photos to use in our materials.
In particular, we have an urgent need for photos for our new program for teens.If you would be willing to share some of your family photos of happy teenagers in group settings having fun and allow them to be used in  “Matrimony – an invitation to Live in Love” and the  Matrimony Student Workbook, it would help us to keep down the cost of production by not having to purchase stock photography.

Please, send photos to the PMRC at PO Box 2304, Southeastern, PA 19399 or email digital photos to PMRCusa@msn.com.  Any help you can provide will make this extraordinary program even better.

Newsletter Contributors Welcome

Please share your local news with the growing Living in Love community.  Simply email a brief write up and any photos to PMRCusa@msn.com by the first of the month to be included in the next monthly newsletter.
If you have a special anecdote or heart warming story from your own relationship or someone you know personally that would inspire other couples to marry each other well, we would be happy to publish it.  Please, limit yourself to less than 250 words.

Living in Love Every Day Video Course available now!

Great progress has been made on the new, self-help version of the Living in Love Every Day course.  Now, a couple will be able to sit back in their own home on any night they choose and pop in a DVD to have Ron and Kathy Feher lead them through all the fun exercises and skills training designed to help us all stay in love while navigating the stresses of everyday life.  If it has been a while since your weekend, this can be a great way to refresh yourselves and renew the passion of your love.
If you are interested in purchasing the DVD set (8 disks) and accompanying workbooks, please contact the PMRC at PMRCusa@msn.com or 610-640-4105.  The cost for the complete package is $79.95 plus shipping.  For those who have already expressed interest, we will ship in the next few weeks.
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