Might well be the wisest response when an 'outsider' - think some random golfer, playing companion or heaven forbid relative - offers advice (often cheap in nature), help or guidance with your golf swing, or how to play the game.
Yet, you're in a dilemma, much like Massasoit, the leader of the native Wampanoag people was, when the Pilgrims sailed upon their land a few hundred years ago, 'cause you are struggling with your game - and heck - someone is conveniently there (can you say the Interwebs & SM?) to help.
What say you? "No thanks," or...
Massasoit had an incredibly golf-like "risk vs. reward" decision to make... And so do you when it comes to improving; I'm here to help with my in-person (what a concept, eh?) and remote coaching services; only a few spots remain so as to preserve the quality of my offerings, so let me know before that gravy gets cold.
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A large part of the challenge today is just what, and who, to believe in our ever-overcrowded golf arena. In a day and age when the bulk of the world is being instructed to be cautious, respectful and at a distance from one another - golf instruction has become a superspreader of iffy information, concepts and ideas. I say "no thanks;" you?
Much like Thursday's holiday, Thanksgiving. My guidance for the golf park deals in science and evidence based realities, plus the remarkably potent cranberry-sauce elixir known as experience.
Not want you want to hear. Not what's trendy. No lipstick nor sweet-talk - just the truth - and what the best way for you to swing the club, play the game, and enjoy the experience shall be.
Are you ready to learn from the true history of the upcoming holiday (so as not to repeat mistakes, like a poor decision on the links), or you wanna stay in lala feel-good land? I respect both choices. You can say "no thanks," or click on the black and white image at the top for a non-fictitious rendering of Thanksgiving.
The golf ball would (want to know the truth, if only it could read - how thankful you must be to have such a skill...), for it has no biases, preferences, nor preconceived notions. An inanimate object at rest (the damn thing's not even moving - why does misbehave so badly, so frequently?), awaiting the collision known as impact. Isn't that as refreshing as a luscious sparkling cider or the like, with a feast?
Handling The Truth
The truth is sometimes a real handful (or mouthful), huh? Kinda like dealing with relatives (especially after an adult beverage or three..) at Holiday time. Emotional. Dramatic. Mind-blowing.
Is that you on the golf course, when things don't go quite as planned? I hear ya, just as you can hear the classic retort from Colonel Jessup (my man Jack Nicholson, but of course) in A Few Good Men; clicky clicky above.
So, when you turn into drama king or queen during a round, you know, start yelling at yourself inside - that's your crazy roommate, BTW - why so, and how to manage in ways that will help, rather than hinder, your performance for the remainder of the day?
What'd you expect? Ah, the dreaded "E" word, nobody's friend. I imagine Massasoit didn't expect the pale-skinned newcomers to arrive in the hordes that they did, otherwise he may have chosen differently.
You? Expecting to hit the same shots as those playing on TV over the weekend? Oops... you're not in lala land - you're on another planet. Your Mayflower is going to sail off the end of the Earth. Goals, intentions and 'what you want,' yes - but leave you're radically unrealistic expectations behind.
Example: what's your 'belief' for a 5-10 foot putt? Lemme guess... that you should make it?
Can you handle the truth? 2020 PGA Tour REALITIES from 5-10 feet.
Oh, and tell your pal 'Should' to go to the back of the line with your other self-appointed golf experts. Do not pass Go, do not collect $200. 'Should' is always someone else talking (mommy, daddy, the media - crazy roommate - yet again?), not you. Stop shoulding on yourself and do your best to achieve what you want.
Example: Expecting that hitting more fairways (never a bad thing, don't throw the stuffing at me, please) is going to help you mark down smaller #'s on your scorecard, as opposed to hitting it farther/further/more far off the tee?
Can you handle the truth? 2020 PGA Tour Driving Accuracy Leaders; 2020 PGA Tour Driving Distance Leaders. Whaaa...??? You thought I was going to do all the work for you? No thanks. Take the Top 10 or 20 in each category, then look at how much $$ they earned in 2020.
Example: You're expecting genuine change, improvement and growth, to be as quick and easy as "pass the mashed potatoes, please," are you? I mean, that's what the on-line pilgrims are promising, after all.
Can you handle the truth? "Leaning takes time," my good friend and mentor Dr. Christian Marquardt once told me, but that's not very marketable or sexy, is it now? For those of you who are spending time working towards betterment, yet not seeing the progress you seek, there's a good chance you could be allocating those precious minutes, hours and days more wisely.
A double accoutrement for you:
A John Hopkins study on how to expedite learning.
Train2Trust. Nope, not CS's preference of white or dark turkey meat, just science + experience-based findings on how to optimize your practice time.
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