I Beg Your Pardon,
I Never Promised You A Rose Garden
Today's title taken from Lynn Anderson's 1973 hit single, of course.
Alas, much discussion about the presidential pardons given just a few moons back - but what about the pardons, forgiveness and compassion - largely of yourself - necessary on the golf course for better performance?
You thought, perhaps, 'twas all about making technically perfect swings? Sending bombs off the tee (well, that does help..)? Holing yards of putts like it was going out of style?
Think again, fellow roamers of the links; better yet - click above and take a look and listen to Ms. Anderson - then swing back thissa way for some insight & ideas on how her words can help guide you in negotiating the challenges on and off the golf course - specifically in the country of your mind...
I could sing you a tune and promise you the moon
But if that's what it takes to hold you, I'd just as soon let you go
What gives...??? Isn't that what the ever-so-noisy (and busy posting more, more and more - regardless of quality), self-appointed experts flooding the Interwebs and SM are promising? The moon (progress), in the blink of an eye?
I beg your pardon?
Improvement takes a game plan suited for you (not the masses) + competent and consistent feedback. CS' 'tune' of remote and in-person coaching a click away...
Oh, I beg your pardon - you're wondering why, even though you do practice, you don't see much progress? I don't (wonder): you are likely not practicing the right things, the right way. And maybe too much... So simple, if you'd integrate a few of the tenets of my Train2Trust program, then give an ear to my interview with longtime colleague Roberto Borgatti, on Sports EdTV.
"You better look before you leap, still waters run deep
And there won't always be someone there to pull you out"
I beg your pardon? You didn't notice the current conditions in prepping for that next shot? What were you paying attention to? Perhaps you were distracted, or pretending you were on the practice grounds (or worse/better yet - indoors hitting off a perfect lie, into a big screen, with ZERO consequences) wailing away into an 800 yard-wide fairway with a bunch of striped do-overs?
Look before you leap, for the depth of your decisions has a monumental influence on where your golf ball ends up. Take note of your present surroundings. The contours (uphill/downhill/sidehill) + firmness of the earth underfoot. The temperature of the air that your wondrous skin - the largest organ of the human body - can read so well (no, you don't need to add a friggin' thermometer to your arsenal...). The air about you, and way above you, where your dimpled nugget is about to travel.
And where you mind is looking to leap: into what you want, or fearful and drowning in deep waters of 'what ifs,' 'don'ts' and the like?
Oh, you thought your teacher would be there at each and every moment, to make your swing & scoring ouchies all better? Is that the current scenario in your student-coach/guide relationship? If so, there's something else you better 'pull out' of a dark spot pronto, if it's enlightenment (and better performance) on the golf course you seek.
The role of the golf guide is to empower you to self coach (not to create some sort of addictive dependency) - oh, I beg your pardon - did you not get that memo..??
"Along with the sunshine there's gotta be a little rain sometime
When you take you gotta give so live and let live or let go"
Amen there, Ms. Anderson. Sunny San Diego, CA, pictured above, from last week's PGA Tour event.
You ever have one of those sunshine-filled rounds (you know, where you're hitting it great, and all is in order) when all of a sudden a storm hits? Bad swing. Bad break. Bad ruling ("to plug, or not to plug - that is the question.."). Big number.
I beg your pardon? Did some self-appointed golf guru promise you a day-long rose garden? Think again - then more importantly - think about how best to respond.
- Acknowledge & Accept. Factual (what happened) vs. Counter-factual (what might happen). Let go of your prognostications (that crystal ball in your bag will weigh you down, big time) and move forward with the reality of the situation at hand. So what, now what?
- Appreciate. Take the good with the bad and appreciate (as opposed to taking for granted) the well-struck shots, the beauty surrounding you in the golf park, and the mere opportunity you have to play this game.
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"Footfalls echo in the memory, down the passage we did not take, towards the door we never opened, into the rose garden"
- - T.S. Eliot
~ CS ~