"When you want more than you have
You think you need
And when you think more than you want
Your thoughts begin to bleed"
Amen. And when you get burdened with excessive swing thoughts (more than you want - or need), your golf swing begins to bleed, profusely.
Too many people (and yet again - consider the source) spewing too many things that do not address the root causes of your issues. Keep in mind that thought always precedes action. So, how (mindset & flow) you are thinking as specifically what you are paying attention to, are critical factors. Stop fretting the esthetics & effects of your golf swing, and start addressing the origins and sources of your woes.
Amen yet again, if I may. Take a close look at 99% of the people selling their shticks on golf, health, lifestyle - whatever - and you'll notice they have one thing in common: doing it for the ego & almighty $. I believe the four gents pictured up top did it for the love, passion and challenge of the game; where you at on those spectrums?
Click above for a Carly Simon classic..
"You're so vain
You probably think this song is about you
You're so vain, you're so vain
I'll bet you think this song is about you
Just like you think the game of golf and its bounty of offerings is all about YOU, huh? How well you play? How low your index gets? All the great tracks you've played?
Alas, you too are shipwrecked before even boarding, mates. Considering letting go and seeing what happens my fellow control freaks (some of your more than others). Attuning to the universe and discarding the toxic idea that YOU are at the center of it. It's not about God or religion - it's about stopping believing that you are the director. Time to give up the most potent addiction of all: that you in control...
Who you pretending to be on the links, and in life? Lacking accountability in your personal and/or professional existence? How come? Whatcha running from?
You got game like the badass foursome up top? You go ahead and 'talk the talk' in whatever activity, but the game of golf doesn't suffer fools easily...
Click on the funny just above for a Jackson Browne fav.
"Say a prayer for the Pretender
Who started out so young and strong
Only to surrender"
You? Surrendered to some mediocrity in your golf swing, or game? Where's the youth and strength you once possessed - beaten down by the mass confusion of 'how to' information hiding around every corner? Taking to heart what all the posers, pretenders, and pseudo learning facilitators are peddling for "free," or next-to-free?
I understand (and am saying a silent prayer for you). And there is a better way: find a non-pretender in the golf realm, someone with whom you can actually spend quality time. Someone who can assess where you are at, and specifically what you have to work with. A genuine guide who cares. What a concept, eh?
Whaa..?? You thought all these playing partners were going to be thorns in your side? Not at all!
You've got ringer in the group - he or she who displays patience in the game, and process. In fact, ALL great players do. But: lemme guess: you're in a hurry, huh? To progress, to hit it further, to get from point A to point B. 'Cause you're busy.
Some smarty-pants serve you a pitcher of the 'quick fix' Cool-Aid? Tasted sweet when you first drank it, a bit sour now, isn't it? Go jump into the fab foursome up top, look those men sternly in the eyes, and tell them you want to improve without commitment, hard work, and a plan. Go ahead, see what the response is - if they even have the time of day for you...
Because, boys & girls, The Waiting is the hardest part. Click above for a fine audio taste from my man Tom Petty.
"The waiting is the hardest part
Every day you get one more yard
You take it on faith, you take it to the heart
The waiting is the hardest part"
We play more than four in my golf world groups, FYI; whose 'rules' you following, anyway, and why? And just why are you so serious in the first place about this game? 'Tis a game after all, meant to be played, enjoyed, and full of the unexpected.
But Mongo knew that - and you thought he wasn't the sharpest tack in the box, huh? In search of a new swing or role model on the links? Might I suggest Mongo (click above for a dash of humor, one of life's finest elixirs).
- Simple minded. You think possessing globs of information + understanding concepts and theories intellectually and conceptually will help you play better. I respectfully disagree. Mongo - much like several of the top players in the world today - is like having a beautiful house with no one home.. He has learned, and plays the games games of golf & life through feel, instinct & intuition (despite his weakness for sweets..) - pieces he's learned through experience.
- Strong as an ox.
Told ya so. You out there working on building the 'perfect' swing? Pity, you - and most of us - would be better served to strengthen that physical body (and mind, while you're at it..) of yours. Start with your fingers, hands, wrists and forearms, please. You'd be shocked if you shook hands with the four icons up top, let alone Mongo. Sitting (the new smoking) and playing musical words on your keyboard ain't helping your golf body, boys & girls.
- Resilient. Things 'blow up' in your face non-stop in a round of golf - haven't you noticed? Raunchy miss-hits. Bad breaks after good swings. Sudden climatic changes you choose to ignore. Begging question: how do you respond to such mishaps? Mr. Complainer? Madame Woe-Is-Me? Sir Pouty & Silent? I hear ya, been there, done that. So here's a tip: brush it off, and turn over a new attitude leaf. Mongo would - and so did Yale Law School grad Seun Adebiyi. Amazing.
You know - the individual in your group who is just happy to be there. Playing golf. Grateful for the opportunity. Thankful to be vertical at this moment in time.
You? Forget that you are amongst the privileged few? Taking the walk in the golf park for granted (and finding things to complain about while you're at it?)? Chronically criticizing and lamenting (they are looking for help in the coal mines, BTW) any and all?
The trio of Emerson, Lake and Palmer knew the lucky man; do you? Click just north for a listen, and reminder...
"White lace and feathers
They made up his bed
A gold covered mattress
On which he was led"
Your 'white lace and feathers' are the wondrous opportunity you have to play this ball & stick game while others sleep on the sidewalks, suffer to merely make it through the day, and toil in tasks to simply put food on the table. Appreciation & gratitude are powerful elements for your spirit, being, and self, in the walks of golf and life. What lucky men and women we are...