Learning To Fly
Something new - you know? Why not... who hasn't dreamt of taking off, floating the friendly skies as our avian friends do, then landing back on Terra Firma when and if you feel like it. Superhero stuff, you say? Yes. And no.
Click on yours truly above in the Santa Rosa mountains a few weeks back (that's the hamlet of La Quinta, below & behind) - as rare a sighting as a California condor (maybe I'm more of the laughing owl, or dodo genre, actually...) since I've largely ceased to plaster my mug (and pander my every action & service on SM) on blue-lit screens - and take in my man Tom Petty's tune.
Then glide back this way for some ideas on how his words, the late Stan Lee's characters, and a recent piece in Golf Digest might help you take off on the links and beyond - while discovering that superhero (and more) within...
It's what Stan Lee did for Marvel - transforming the comic book world by imbuing its characters with the self-doubts and neuroses of average people, as well an awareness of trends and social causes and, often, a sense of humor.
Wow. And you/we thought they were all perfect, indestructible, and blessed with superpowers (like the peeps playing golf on TV, for a living).
In humanizing his heroes, giving them character flaws and insecurities that belied their supernatural strengths, Mr. Lee tried “to make them real flesh-and-blood characters with personality,” he told The Washington Post in 1992. “That’s what any story should have, but comics didn’t have until that point,” he said. “They were all cardboard figures.”
You are no different boys and girls: full of flaws - in your golf swing as well as in your character. Insecure in the golf park when you encounter an uncomfortable situation or shot, and in your daily doings when you lack accountability for who you are, and how you act. Full of the flesh-and-blood of your own personality - not someone else's (time to stop pretending, posing, postulating). Certainly not a cardboard golfer or human being, somebody's model, robot, or average.
So... why do you choose to fight, ignore, or run and hide - instead of embracing, accepting and improving your fissured Superhero self?
Click on Mr. Lee & his web-slinging pal above to catch a brief and enlightening interview with him from the New York Times, circa 2015.
Just as Stan Lee's superpeople had lots of sub-personalities running around within them - so do you. Not to fear, friends, and no need to speed-book an appointment with your cognitive behavior therapist. Welcome to the club, rather...
Badass batman? Sure - but what about obsessive, depressive and overly stubborn Bruce Wayne?
Sans peer Superman? Sure - but what about his weakness for kryptonite, how he constantly gets stymied (yep, he's a golfer) by a sense of right and wrong, and how he'll "hold back" out of fear his actions will harm others, including opponents (trust this isn't you in match play).
Hellacious Hulk? Sure - but what about his soft spot for puppies, his rather fragile ego, and his father-induced trauma?
Read the piece from this month's Golf Digest, just above our super-threesome, on some of the work Dr. Debbie Crews and I have done. Then, go ahead and ponder just who 'pops up' for you during a round of golf. Give 'em a name if you like, and get to know them a little better. Rather than condemning or denying - how about acknowledging and welcoming your many selves. They can all be useful at times, and you get to choose when each 'mini me' comes out and play.
"Now some say life will beat you down
Yeah, it will break your heart, steal your crown
So I started out for God knows where
But I guess I'll know when I get there"
And some say the game of golf will 'beat you down, break your heart, steal your crown.' I happen to agree; isn't that part of what draws us to its plethora of challenges? Makes us want to work harder (and smarter, especially)? Strive for perfection, even though as broken mortals (like our superhero pals), we can only do our best, and accept the outcome? Forgive and move on.
Where are you starting this 2019 season, anyway? And where are you going (goals)? God knows where? No go... Ditch the vagaries about "getting better" (the brain like to chase things - so give it some clear guidance) and take some specific direction to get to where you want to go.
"I'm learning to fly, but I ain't got wings
Coming down is the hardest thing"
Appears from this childhood image I've been considering learning to fly some some time now... That little guy is still a big part of me, just as that kid inside you is alive and well, thank you. Just another part of your current-day whole.
You listening? What is he or she saying? Wanting to learn something new (flying, a new bunker shot, compassion for the less-fortunate brothers and sisters of the planet)? Escape from the rut you've come down in - on the links - or in life? No time like new year 2019 to start paying attention...
Remarkably, apparently, my outdoor attire hasn't changed much over the years (although I do kinda dig the one-piece look above)... Need some comfy & coolio looks for the links? Click on toddler CS just above for a few offerings from my cronies at Nike Golf.
Coaching & Guidance
Wanting to fly a little higher with your golf - but you ain't got wings? I understand. Let's find another way - a way that best suits you.
On my home turf at Eugene Country Club, or in a golf park near you.
“If you were born without wings, do nothing to prevent them from growing.”
~ CS ~