Not everyone's going to agree with me on this one and it's just plain not for everyone, but I think it's important enough to spend this week considering it.
THIS WEEK'S INTENTION:
WALK INTO THE STORM
Most of us avoid discomfort because, well, it sucks. If we know someone triggers us, our natural reaction is to avoid that person...which makes a lot of sense. We see the potential storm and choose to walk around it. It's self-preservation.
What if your avoidance is actually keeping you from healing the stuff your triggers bring up?
Triggers bring to light the dark parts of us we can't see on our own. If the same trigger keeps hitting you, it might be time to turn around and walk back into the storm.
Triggers victimize us when we act as if they have all the power. They don't. When we resign ourselves to reacting in the same way we've always reacted, the storm wins every time.
By walking into the storm rather than around it for the purpose of understanding ourselves better, we become the hero of our own story.
We take back our power. We declare to the storm: "You don't get to limit my life. You don't get to govern who I am."
Now, hear me on this: this isn't true for everyone. Triggers exist on a spectrum and people who have triggers that are on the more extreme side of it (such as with PTSD) won't make them better by walking into triggering situations without some kind of mental health pro's plan in place. I'm talking about the kinds of triggers that bother you, not the kind that wreck you.
Recently, I started walking into the storm with a triggering friend and I'm healing SO much! I'm so psyched on it that I wrote a whole long-ass post on it. Here 'tis!
Fresh on SIO: How To Reframe Triggers As Gifts