Have you ever written down a goal, and put the bit of paper aside but every now and then revisited it and wondered if it would ever come true? We 'goal' experts teach that “a goal is a dream with a deadline”. You should specify a date by which you hope that your target will be met. If you do this you can chart your course and pace yourself to achieve your goal.
It’s believed that if you write down your goal and the expected date for achieving it, the universe actually helps by speeding up the process and you get your goal much sooner than you think.
But you can’t always set a date for a goal. Sometimes it feels just like wishful thinking. In 1991 I was a very sad newly-single mother of two but I was determined to be successful on my own. As a member of National Speakers Association Australia, I used to listen to tapes which were sent to us from USA. On one tape I heard Layne Longfellow, a riveting and very successful speaker, and he said that “the best gig” you could ever get, was to be invited to speak at the Million Dollar Round Table (MDRT) annual conference. You couldn’t go and ask to speak for MDRT, you had to be invited.
In those days there was no internet for me to look up MDRT, so I just believed it was a great goal and I wrote it down…without a deadline. I made an audiotape where I read out my list of goals, including the MDRT goal, and would listen to it as I went to sleep at night.
As the years passed I read my list of goals every New Year and noted that some had come true. I was presenting on radio and television regularly. I had developed audio-programs and written books that were selling consistently. As a speaker I had presented on topics ranging from parenting to conflict resolution and of course goal-setting. I had written the manual for a software program called GoalMaker. And there were learnings about trusting the wrong people and not having sensible personal judgement with investment in various projects. We live we learn.
Now here’s where I begin to get tingles down my spine. Seventeen years later I went to my laptop on a cold dark winter’s morning and opened an email which said “You have been invited to speak at the Million Dollar round Table in Indianapolis, USA in June 2009”. The speaker-seeker had found me on the web!
Great Sex in a Loving Relationship!
It took seventeen years for this goal to become a reality, all by itself. How beautiful is that? I am blessed indeed and I thank the power of the written goal.
Dr Janet Hall is a Clinical Psychologist, hypnotherapist, sex therapist, author, professional speaker, trainer and media consultant working in private practice in Melbourne. Jan consults regularly with print media and is a frequent guest on talk-back radio and current affairs shows.
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Take control of your life
By Dr Peter Dingle
More than 95% of our thoughts and actions are based on our conditioning. We are literally robots running on our early habits, most of which we learnt as a child. While this was great then, and helps us do up our shoe laces and have basic conversations now, it is not the patterning for successful people, a successful business or peak productivity. The negative or outdated conditioning, our habits of the mind, are literally holding you and your organisation back.
The 5% of our thinking is creative and dynamic and can direct our 95%, however our higher thinking uses a lot of energy and is exhaustive so we always, and especially under times of stress, revert back to the conditioning and if this is not reprogrammed for what you need now then it won't happen.
There are no limits once you realise we can break out of the old conditioning and create new positive patterns and habits. Everything we do is a choice and can either be positive or negative, but it is the accumulation of negative choices that cause problems in our life, not the one offs. One can of soft drink a day is not a problem but over a year it puts on 4kg and over a lifetime can lead to lack of focus and concentration, increased absenteeism, and presenteeism, low personal productivity and on the health front fatty liver disease, diabetes and even more problems. Using our 5% we can create more positive choices in our lives.
By challenging ourselves to change we expand our potential and ability and see new opportunities. The human mind and body were meant to be challenged. When Darwin coined the term “survival of the fittest” he did not mean the fastest or the tallest. He meant the ones who could adapt to the change fastest - the ones who would challenge themselves. Without challenging ourselves we slip backwards into the habits we learnt as a child and so does our opportunity and productivity.
Change is inevitable and essential. Not only do you need to be ready for it but we also need to be a part of it to create the future we want. Learning to use our 5% and using positive change tools can create a commitment that counts, not another failed New Year's Eve resolution, and enables all of us to create new positive conditioning for success.
ABOUT DR PETER DINGLE | Web profile
Dr Dingle (BEd, BSc,PhD, WASM) has spent the past 25 years as a researcher, educator, communicator and author. He was an Associate Professor in Health and the Environment at Murdoch University for 21 years and is one of Australia's leading motivational health speakers.
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Step up your productivity!
By Lisa McInnes-Smith
How would you like the next 90 days to be your best so far? What would you be willing to do to make this your reality?
We always have the option to make a fresh start by embracing the opportunity to step up to your potential. It’s a choice. Become inspired by imagining what it might look and feel like. Build a vision. What would you love to see happen? Put words to the progress you would like to see in the next ninety days. Speak it out loud. Write down every benefit you will enjoy when you accomplish your new goals. Get excited about the possibilities!
Yes, of course there are other options. There is always the option to step back, step down or step sideways. So many people sub-consciously choose not to step up, only to find themselves somewhere they don’t want to be because they didn’t make that positive choice. Others don’t take any steps, then wonder why they feel as if they are drifting away from what they thought they wanted. Progress comes through choice and application of energy. Are you giving your future your best energy?
If you choose to make a brave choice, then I have some practical ways to help you step up and raise your performance:
Stop multi-tasking. Focus on one task at a time. Multi-tasking (or serial tasking) is really shifting from one task to another, usually resulting in a reduction in overall productivity, sometimes by up to 40%. Circumstances might demand multi-tasking on occasions, but it’s rarely efficient. Practice doing focused work. Stay in the zone for 50 minutes then take a 10 minute break. This strategy will give you the ability to stay focused for longer periods and create high quality output.
Keep moving forward even if you’re only managing baby steps. Remember that staying in motion creates momentum and this can be a force to be reckoned with. Don’t hesitate to start small with the simple task of jotting down a plan then taking lots of small steps that enable you to experience progress. A little success breeds more success!
Write a “To Be” list, not just a “To Do” list. Sometimes we are so strategic at work that we forget to be more strategic about our personal growth. It’s extremely difficult to rise without growing our character and tenacity. For example, in order “to be” a loving partner, wife or husband, you need to express love in the way your spouse likes to receive it, which is often not the way that’s easiest for you. If you want to be an effective parent, it’s strategic to spend weekly one-on-one time with each child doing something they love. Raising your performance at home will always have a positive overflow effect on your work life. You feel so good about yourself and others get the benefit.
Be a radical change agent by consistently doing the same important things every single day. “Being faithful is the new radical” says business leader and author Michael Hyatt. “It’s more radical than you think. So many people show spurts of greatness only to stumble at the first hurdle and stop. Faithfulness and consistency, are the stuff that gives strength and significance to social movements”. Chuck Swindoll says “Leadership has more moments in the mundane than the magnificent”. There’s a lot of success for those who keep showing up!
Commit to be pleasant - reasonable wouldn’t hurt either! Determine to be a person who doesn’t get angry or fly off the handle when things aren’t going right. Whenever you feel overwhelmed, get in the habit of taking 3 deep breaths before doing or saying anything. Self-control is a major step up. It’s not always easy but you can make it a habit by practice.
Train yourself to have a friendly voice on the phone. Practice smiling as you speak. Smiling needs to become your default position. Your voice will come out much sweeter through a smiling mouth. If you only think you smile you may need a mirror by the phone so you can see if your face is displaying a teeth-revealing smile. Remember, smiling makes you beautiful … and a nicer person to follow!
Use words that inspire and uplift you. Some words encourage and enable while other words help us to believe in ourselves and our dreams. Choose the words you want to hear every day and say them to yourself. Don’t wait for others - you might wait a lifetime. Many people don’t understand the power of choosing positive, proactive, engaging words for themselves. Try saying the following words out loud to yourself and see how they make you feel. Then shape a list of words tailored to your needs:
Imagine. Dream. Excite. Enthuse. Determine. Play. Create. Renew. Excel. Dare. Laugh. Listen. Dream. Think. Encourage. Begin.
ABOUT LISA McINNES-SMITH | Web profile
Lisa McInnes-Smith is Queen of the corporate stage and a master of audience participation. Along her incredible journey, Lisa has presented to more than one million adults across twenty-two countries and authored seven bestselling books. Her focus is on what it takes to create a tangible shift - whether it be shifting an attitude, shifting direction, shifting behaviour or shifting outcomes.
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Just for fun...
, is an economic and finance speaker. Noel recently sent us the following paraprosdokians. Paraprosdokians are figures of speech, in which the latter part of a sentence or phrase is surprising or unexpected, and frequently humorous. Apparently Winston Churchill loved them.
Where there’s a will, I want to be in it.
The last thing I want to do is hurt you. But it’s still on my list.
Since light travels faster than sound, some people appear bright until you hear them speak.
If I agreed with you, we’d both be wrong.
We never really grow up, we only learn how to act in public.
War does not determine who is right - only who is left.
Knowledge is knowing a tomato is a fruit. Wisdom is not putting it in a fruit salad.
To steal ideas from one person is plagiarism. To steal from many is research.
I didn’t say it was your fault, I said I was blaming you.
In filling out an application, where it says ‘In case of emergency, Notify:’ I put ‘DOCTOR’.
I used to be indecisive. Now I’m not so sure.
To be sure of hitting the target, shoot first and call whatever you hit the target.
The mental health and profit correlation all leaders should know
By Graeme Cowan
As mental health month approaches in October, I’ve been reflecting on the question I hear most often from Human Resources and OH&S professionals: “Why don’t our managers take the mental health of their employees seriously?” I know from first-hand experience, that most managers would like to create a healthy and productive environment, but I think we in the mental health community have made two major mistakes.
Mental health is positioned as something “extra”
We use language they don’t understand
Mental health is positioned as something “extra” Many managers are overwhelmed at work and the prospect of doing something “extra” is not attractive. Mental health initiatives must be linked to organisational purpose if they are going to gain momentum and prominence. Positive leadership produces performance and mental health for employees and I think our greatest impact will come when leaders believe, and act on this knowledge. Some specialist expertise is required when an employee is highly stressed and dysfunctional, but ultimately, the greatest payback will be when sustainable cultures are created that enhance rather than destroy mental health.
We talk a language they don’t understand. At a recent workplace mental health conference, there were frequent mentions of terms you would never hear in a business meeting. For example, speakers advocated the need to create “safe psychosocial environments”. Using language like this will often alienate line managers and prompt them to put it in the “too hard” basket. If instead we promote the business benefits of creating caring cultures, our probability of being heard and acted on are greatly enhanced.
Graeme Cowan is one of Australia’s leading speakers and authors in the area of mental health at work and is a frequently sought-out expert opinion on the causes of workplace stress & stress management in the workplace, mental health awareness & managing change in the workplace.
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