|Hey Sunshine, my regular August newsletter will be out later this week, but I wanted to share this with you first.
No matter what your thoughts on the “nature vs. nurture” debate, some habits start young. My mother came home from my first grade conferences with a smug gleam in her eye. “Your teacher said you’re doing very well, but when you get an answer wrong, you cry!”
In high school I took a quiz to rate perfectionist tendencies; on a scale of -20 (not at all) to +20 (wow), my best friend got a 4. I got a 17. When I took the quiz home, so did my mother.
Perfectionism can be a good thing -- when your life is in balance. It can be detail-oriented, responsible, and meticulous. Out of balance, however, it means analysis paralysis, procrastination, and overwhelm. For years, I was stuck in the latter category.
Nothing got started because the circumstances weren’t right, nothing got finished because it was never good enough, and I couldn’t delegate because “if you want something done right, do it yourself.”
This pattern left me overworked, exhausted, and living on coffee and carbohydrates. I ate like crap, slept like crap, and felt like crap. Everything was pushed to the future: someday I’ll get more sleep, once this show is over I can exercise, after the holidays I’ll start eating better.
My schedule was full, but I was running on empty. Chronic sinus infections (caused by poor diet and lack of sleep) led me to an acupuncturist, and I discovered holistic medicine. As I learned more about how my lifestyle held me back, I decided that the “someday” I was waiting for needed to start today. It wasn’t about deprivation or a new diet, it was about discovering a life that nourished me – all of me.
Today I’m off caffeine, I sleep soundly, and I have to add a belt to my “skinny” jeans. I rarely get sick, I exercise regularly, and best of all, I get to work with people to transform their lives, too.
Is there so much to fix with your life that you can’t even imagine where to start? Does the idea of improving your life sound terrifying and impossible? As one of my clients asked, “Am I a lost cause, beyond hope?”
Trying to control everything in our lives gives those things power over us. There are enough hours in the day. You can’t come last on your own list of priorities. This shift in thinking changed my life.
My life isn't perfect, but no one’s is. Living a healthy lifestyle is a journey, not a destination, and taking personal responsibility for your life doesn’t mean traveling that path alone.
Sometimes if you want something done right, you have to have support to do it yourself.
Sunshine, if this speaks to you and you’re ready to get back in the driver’s seat of your own life, I invite you to join me for a free one-hour Spotlight Session.
In it we will:
I’m only offering 10 of these sessions in the next 2 weeks, so CLICK HERE to schedule yours.
Discover the single easiest thing you can change now to take control of your health
Identify ways to break free of your perfectionist tendencies
Empower you to take the next steps to achieve your health goals
I can't wait to talk to you.
In the infinity of life where I am, all is perfect, whole, and complete, and yet life is ever-changing. There is no beginning and no end, only a constant cycling and recycling of substance and experiences. Life is never stuck or static or stale, for each moment is new and fresh.
- Louise Hay
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