By Gerry Murray. 09-02-2020
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“Get out of your own way” ~ Bono
It was Day 4 of an NLP Practitioner training in Scotland and the participants had just come back after doing an exercise. Glenda, a nurse, had tears in her eyes as she raised her hand. She said: “Why don’t they teach this stuff in school?! If I’d have learned this when I was younger I could have avoided a lot of the sh1t that I’ve gone through in my life! And, I’m only 36!’
The ‘stuff’ she was referring to largely comes down to self-awareness and then knowing what to do about the things that are not working in your life.
Many people go on NLP courses and they leave without learning the most fundamental and important skill - the ability to calibrate and manage your own State. This requires self-awareness.
NLP is about modelling excellence and you can’t produce excellence unless you can access the appropriate state.
Once you’ve mastered State Management you then become better at calibrating the states of others. This, in turn, increases your Emotional Intelligence.
So, back to my question: should this skill be taught in schools?
It’s encouraging to learn that in recent years efforts are being made in several countries to teach kids better self-awareness through mindfulness. Teachers report great results. Yet, researchers still seek out even more proof! Others misinterpret mindfulness as some sort of religious thing that goes against their faith. It’s amazing how teaching people to be self-aware and present can be so misunderstood or even feared. According to an article in the Huffington Post, here are just a few of the benefits of regular mindfulness practice:
- listening skills toward others
- increases executive function
- better impulse control
- longer attention spans
Now, who wouldn’t like to have all of this? Imagine if children could effortlessly do all these things. Imagine how balanced they’d be as adults. Imagine how much better the world could be as a result!
“I have a dream...!”
But that’s maybe for another time
In a school cafeteria, a nun places a note in front of a pile of apples, "Only take one. God is watching." Further down the line is a pile of cookies. A little boy makes his own note, "Take all you want. God is watching the apples.”
Dad: "Can I see your report card, son?"
Son: "I don't have it."
Son: "I gave it to my friend. He wanted to scare his parents."
A teacher asked her students to use the word "beans" in a sentence. "My father grows beans," said one girl. "My mother cooks beans," said a boy. A third student spoke up, "We are all human beans.”
Boy: The principal is so dumb!
Girl: Do you know who I am?
Girl: I am the principal's daughter!
Boy: Do you know who I am?
Boy: Good! *Walks away*
Teacher: "Why are you so late?"
Student: "Someone told me to go to hell."
Teacher: "Why did that make you late to class?"
Student: "I couldn't find it at first, but now here I am."