By Gerry Murray. 23-02-2020
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“If you carry around a lot of suppressed or repressed anger (anger you have unconsciously buried) you may lash out at people, blaming or punishing them for something someone else did a long time ago. Because you were unwilling or unable to express how you felt in the past, you may overreact in the present, damaging a relationship.” ~ Beverly Engel
My Yoga teacher told us on Thursday that it’s normal to feel tired or lacking in energy at this time of the year as we approach the transition from one season to another. Interesting thought.
Last week I highlighted the first of four ways of managing our energy - Physical Energy. This week let’s take a look at another level - Emotional Energy.
It’s important to be able to manage our Emotional Energy so we can perform at our best in tough situations. Core skills or emotional muscles are things such as self-confidence, self-control, social skills, empathy, patience, openness, trust and enjoyment.
Emotions that arise out of threat or energy deficit are quite toxic and not good for us, particularly when we hold onto them. Examples are anger, sadness, fear, hurt/conflict and guilt.
According to Enjoyment-Performance Theory, which underpins a lot of the work that I do, when we enjoy what we do we tend to perform better. Many motivational experts, and even some enlightened managers, seem to agree on this point.
Performance and energy management experts Jim Loehr and Tony Schwartz highlight the following attributes about Emotional Energy that are worth exploring:
- In order to perform at our best, we must access pleasant and positive emotions: the experience of enjoyment, challenge, adventure and opportunity
- Negative emotions serve survival but they are very costly and energy inefficient in the context of performance
- The ability to summon positive emotions during periods of intense stress lies at the heart of effective leadership
- Access to the emotional muscles that serve performance depends on creating a balance between exercising them regularly and intermittently seeking recovery
- Any activity that is enjoyable, fulfilling and affirming serves as a source of emotional renewal and recovery
- Emotional muscles such as patience, empathy and confidence can be strengthened in the same way that we strengthen a bicep or a triceps: pushing past our current limits followed by recovery.
What is the one thing you could do based on this list that would improve your emotional energy this coming week?
Next week, I’ll explore the third source of energy.
May your emotional muscles support you well this week…
My dad got really angry when our air conditioning stopped working.
This always happens when he loses his cool.
My psychologist says I have trouble identifying my emotions
Not quite sure how I feel about it
I spent months planning my wedding, and on the big day, everyone was really emotional...
Even the cake was in tiers.
Hey! What do they call a bear that has uncontrollable emotions?
A Bipolar bear.