Copy
Julie Hutslar's December 2011 Living in Spirit Newsletter
Living in Spirit Newsletter
 GoTo Julie's Website 
A Course in Miracles Quotes

“You have not only been fully created, but have also been created perfect.”

“Creation is the natural extension of perfect purity. Your only calling here is to devote yourself, with active willingness, to the denial of guilt in all its forms.”

“The memory of God comes to a quiet mind. It cannot come where there is conflict, for a mind at war against itself remembers not eternal gentleness.”

Boundaries Without Guilt

Eleanor Roosevelt said, “Do what you feel in your heart to be right- for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do, and damned if you don't.” Most of you have experienced variations on a theme of that, but how do you begin to do what you feel is right in your heart? It’s easy to say that in isolation from family members that expect otherwise, or co-workers who have a vested interest in you doing something closer to what they had in mind, or children or partners who have come to depend on you being and doing things a certain way for them.

The first step in living from your heart is establishing clear and conscious boundaries. This does not mean excluding others from your heart, not at all. This is about honoring yourself and empowering others. But without boundaries, you end up doing what you think other people expect of you or what others convince you that you need to do or be.

How do you do that? First of all, you don’t establish boundaries in a knee jerk reaction to someone blatantly overstepping their invite (and kick them completely out of your life), you do it consciously with consideration as to who you are and what you came here to do and be. So here’s the first question: Who am I? What are my attributes? What is unique about me? What might I have come here for? Then where is my value? I don’t expect you to answer all these in the next 5 minutes, they are for pondering. Can you come up with a role you play while in this life? For example, a teacher, a guide, a catalyst, a prophet or artist? What is your story about? Have you defined yourself in terms of your story, or the story you would like to choose for your life?

continued below...

Resources & Events

MERRY CHRISTMAS! From me to you…two new You Tubes. After many requests for a grounding guided visualization, here is a simple and effective way to create balance, calmness, centeredness and a connection to a greater wisdom, especially if practiced daily. Grounding Meditation

The second one is very powerful also, it is a meditation on forgiveness. Aimed to assist those with heavy hearts, needing to unburden, or needing to let the past go, walk through this with me and feel a freedom that only comes from lightening your load. Forgiveness Meditation

For those in the Northeast, look for a half day workshop in Canton, NY Feb. 4th at Northern Light Yoga on energy management and staying balanced.

Sunset Mountains Watercolor

Boundaries Without Guilt

...continued from above.

This is a key component to creating boundaries, because you need to know what belongs inside and what needs to stay outside. But let’s say you are still discovering who you are, like most of us. You can still create clear boundaries if you let your better judgment, or intuition be your guide. If you are ready to do something and it does not feel right, examine it. If someone asks you to do something or fix something for them, does that feel right, in the pit of your stomach, or not? If you have to rationalize to yourself why you are doing it or promise this is the last time, a cry for a boundary is what you are hearing.

The problem comes when it feels very right to give away your life to others, it feels altruistic and self-sacrificing, what we have been taught is good. Most of that comes from a misunderstanding of who we are. We believe we must establish value on ourselves by doing good works. This is incorrect. Who you truly are has been established by your creator and is not up for discussion. Problem is, you don’t know this. I mean, know as in comprehend on a deep level, so you keep giving away your energy and creative juices and efforts and time and resources thinking it will make you a good person. You are already Divine, what more could you want?

Now boundaries shouldn’t be that difficult. Let your role be your guide. Remember two things as you consciously create your personal boundaries: 1) There is no purpose for guilt at all. None. 2) Every time you pick someone up, you weaken them. Every time you allow them to pick themselves up, they are stronger.

Sandpoint residents, check out Common Knowledge Bookstore and Teahouse for a showing of Julie’s Soul Collection. This is the body of work that feels all too uncomfortably like the collective unconscious finding voice and redemption. First time ever shown by itself, it makes for a very powerful and moving show.  Common Knowledge Bookstore and Teahouse

Not Alone acrylic on wood

Quotes

“When we come to the edge of all the light we have, and we must take a step into the darkness of the unknown, we must believe one of two things: Either we will find something firm to stand on or we will be taught to fly.”

“The best thing you could do for anyone that you love, is be happy!” Abraham

"Set your sights high, the higher the better. Expect the most wonderful things to happen, not in the future but right now. Realize that nothing is too good. Allow absolutely nothing to hamper you or hold you up in any way." Eileen Caddy

Tools

Questions for Life Assessment

 One of my friends sent me a wonderful email the other day, an article written by a hospice nurse. She shares her experiences in helping others pass on and the five top regrets people have about their lives. They are wonderful ways to assess your life, now, while you are healthy and capable. So read them and decide, is this you, will you be having these regrets, or is something ready to shift to keep this from being your regret? Or do you have others that would haunt you? Great time to assess and look forward to a truer way of living and loving this year.

#1 Regret: I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

2) I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.

3) I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

4) I wish I’d stayed in touch with my friends.

5) I wish I had let myself be happier (happiness IS a conscious decision!).
Copyright © 2011 Julie Hutslar
Email Marketing Powered by Mailchimp