As you know I spent a bit of time in India in January. I could not quite fit all my stories in my last newsletter. So another story here and other news below! As always, I am nervous about telling you these stories. But here goes.
I have lived in North America for a long time. I feel that I am always ‘peeling onions’ when I try to ask someone how they are? I find people that I meet, even those I have known for ages have a hard time expressing emotions. I have a sense of why this is… and I know many would like to be freer in how they communicate.
In India, people are constantly talking about deep feelings even with complete strangers. It was so refreshing for me but of course, not everyone there does express emotions freely! If you ask someone how they are, they will tell you.. perhaps even a long story.
I spent so much time when I was a teacher in Oakland, California, teaching my students to express their feelings. I overheard so many children in India freely express their feelings and emotions with each other when having good or bad days! No adult prompting needed.
Here is a little story:
Gilbert a new friend in Bombay, who is such a gem would come to our place regularly to help my mum with a few errands. One morning he arrives with the newspaper for Anjali, mum’s maid. She takes out a few Rupees and puts it on the table to give him.
Gilbert: "Oie Anjali, I was walking out and saw the newspaper and immediately thought of you. When I do a gesture with so much 'prema' (love), why are you giving me the money? Can't I just do that for you?”
I started to weep.. but they did not see my tears.
May we all weep and shed those emotions and practice more random acts of kindness. I wish you all a really wonderful day.
Much love to you,