Sticks, Stones and Self Talk
Do you remember the childhood saying, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me?” It is true that sticks and stones can break our bones. It is also the case that sticks and stones will leave visible scars as a reminder of the hurt that they caused. However, words can hurt just as much as sticks and stones. Yet, it is easier to hide because they are not visible scars, right? Wrong! Invisible scars are often easier to spot because of the behavior they cause. Damage to the mind can cause far more harm than physical pain.
There are many people walking around with invisible scars caused by words, verbal abuse. They live with anger, fear, and guilt. Verbal abuse is language that’s harmful to one’s spirit. Invisible Scars damage both body and mind. Sometimes people don't even realize this verbal abuse underlies the cause of their own misery. It has become a lifestyle in which they have become accustomed. Often the worst perpetrator is ourselves.
We don’t realize how often we verbally abuse ourselves. We say hurtful things in our negative self-talk. We fail to realize how much our negative self-talk affects our experience. In the same way, positive self-talk can affect our experience for the better. When we verbal give ourselves positive messages, we begin to function better in our daily lives. Our relationship improve and our outlook on life changes. Maybe the saying should be “Sticks and stones my break my bones, but words will make or break me.” Let the positive self-talk begin.