This week, we are discussing:
How to have self belief...
without being vain.
Anyone who has read any 'self-help' books, attended motivational seminars or engaged in any form of therapy will have heard of the term self-belief. The problem is that some people may not want to appear to vain or 'up themselves'. So how do you have and display self belief without being narcisstic or vain? And is it that important anyway?
If you have spent any time around young children you will see that they mostly have great self-belief. Most young children believe that they can do anything, become anything, be anyone. As children most of us had big dreams and big self-belief. As children grow older, they are often told to 'not be silly' or to 'be realistic'. While many adults don't mean to diminish the dreams and belief of children, this is the effect that those ideas can have. Children then begin to doubt their own ideas and think that their must be something wrong with their thinking.
As we get older and if the self-belief continues to diminish, you end up with adults who lack confidence, who are secretive, who may rebel or numb their negative voices in a variety of ways.
If you want to influence anyone about anything you have to believe that what you are offering is of value and that you have the right to share your idea, offer or thoughts. Some people may feel that they are afraid to share their thoughts because they may be rejected. If you have a good sense of self-belief then it won't matter. Don't be fooled by those who brag about their lives or are cocky, this is generally a sign of low self-belief. You can have great self-belief and it generally shows up as confidence.
Here are a couple of tips on how to have great self-belief.
Know that if you suggest something to someone and they don't agree, that does not mean they are rejecting you and is actually a great opportunity to learn something new.
Learn how to be master of your own thoughts. Become aware of the dialogue and the thoughts that are running through your mind. If you are unaware you may lack self belief because you have many negative thoughts that are directing how you feel.
Some easy ways to transform your thoughts are by the use of critical thinking and critical questions.
Ask - is that true for me?
Whose voice does my inner voice sound like?
What happens if I change the voice to sound like the chipmunks?
I hope that you realize that you have a right to your ideas, your thoughts and your dreams and so does everyone else. You can change your world by changing your thoughts.
Go out there and be a believer!!!
till next time