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Life is always reflecting to us what we most need to learn. And it's not always easy. 
This week, we are discussing:

The mirrors of life

Is that how I really am?


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Over the last few months I've had some challenges. I've also had some pretty massive wins in my world. Many of the challenges come from life reflecting to me how I am behaving or giving me a chance to be a one way mirror and reflect what is not mine. Let me explain a little. 

When life is acting as a mirror - if I am having a bad day and grumpy about things, then more things will seem to go wrong. The traffic will back up, shop assistants will be rude, people in my world will generally seem to be grumpier that day. If we are having an amazing day, everything seems brighter, we see more positives in the world and feel happier. It's partly to do with the reticular activation system, which highlights what we focus on. If we are feeling grumpy, we tend to see it in others to. This applies to all emotions. So if we are tuned in to love, compassion, joy, anger etc, we will see it played out around us too. 

Sometimes we can act as if rather than reflecting our life back to us,  we are standing behind a one way mirror which allows us a unique perspective of what is being directed towards us. It also gives us some space to think about how we want to respond to what is heading our way. An example might be that someone you love is acting in a way that hurts you. Our first response to pain is to unleash our inner child to have a tantrum and be angry or overly emotional back at them. Thinking of life as a one-way mirror might give us the opportunity to understand what's going on. Is there something going on in that person's life that makes them feels stressed out right now? Is there some past hurt that has been triggered? Are we not being present for them in some way? Or maybe there are things happening that we have no awareness of. 

The perfect thing to do when life gives you a challenge in the form of someone else's response to you  is to be grateful. Now you get the opportunity to think about - if you were going through something - what sort of friend, parent, lover, spouse, work mate etc would you want to be there for you. And then be that for the other person. Be kind, compassionate, understanding. Leave the door open for reconnection in the future if there is a distance right now. Other people have things happening in their world that have nothing to do with you. As you grow as a person, you will be able to love and release people more and more. Releasing does not mean dumping people or not being there for each other. It simply means that you can still love even when you don't understand why they are behaving the way they are. 

Have some fun observing the behaviour of yourself and others this week. 

have a great week.

Til next time

Sherry 
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What you see and hear depends a good deal on where you are standing; it also depends on what sort of person you are.

C.S. LEWIS, The Magician's Nephew


 

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