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This week, we are discussing:
conversations, chit-chat, debates and arguments.
How to be happy and be right.
Conversations
Sometimes we will be having a conversation with another person and we will discover during our discussions that we have a different view on things. All verbal exchanges are actually conversations. Some become engaging and exciting, we tend to call these debates. And still others become volatile and hurtful things can be said, we often call these arguments. So what is the difference and when, if ever, is it worth arguing?
Chit Chat
Those general chit chat times that may happen at work, when you run into people at the supermarket or with those you are still getting acquanted with. While these conversations can be fun, they are often polite and 'safe'.
Debates
These are those exchanges in conversations when two people may have an opposing view on something. It is generally while a topic is being debated that 'aha' moments happen. Embrace debates with others whose views differ from your own. These are great opportunities to learn new things, or are great opportunities to help someone else to expand their world view.
Arguments
Arguments generally happen when two people are debating something and neither wants to be in a space of curiosity. When both parties beleive they are right and are not prepared to be curious about the view of the other person, the conversation can become quite toxic. Neither person wins in this case and neither person learns anything.
So is there ever a right time to argue? I am not sure there is. I would love to hear your thoughts thought, please send us your ideas.
So next time you are having a discussion with someone and it turns into a debate, keep an open mind, be curious about the reasons the other person believes what they do and be prepared to let them have their belief. Don't let a great debate turn into an argument just because you want to win. Remember we all have our own map of the world and we live in our own world. Let's learn from the world of those around us. The right thing is to be respectful of the opinions of others.
happy 'choose' day - I hope you choose peace over arguments every time.
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Quote for the week
I've had a few arguments with people, but I never carry a grudge. You know why? While you're carrying a grudge, they're out dancing.
Buddy Hackett |
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Quote 2
The moment we want to believe something, we suddenly see all the arguments for it, and become blind to the arguments against it.
George Bernard Shaw |
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