Walk in to any bookshop and look in the personal development section and you will find books with 'peace' in the title that all claim to have the secret to living a peaceful life. Likewise have a look at courses that are being run by those in the industry and many also claim to hold the secrets and if you don't do them you will miss out on finding peace. Even many magazines are now dishing out tips on living peacefully. So, it is possible or are we just kidding ourselves.
In my dining room I have a large picture of a buddha. It certainly looks peaceful and it makes me feel good when I look at it. I think it is the look of pure bliss on the face of the buddha. I want to be in that state. And the books and courses would have me believe that if I just 'let go of expectations' and 'be in the now' I too can be this peaceful.
The truth is that sometimes I do get there. But a lot of the time I am doing things I want to do that are not that peaceful. Fitness classes are just one example that come to mind. Peaceful, no way!!! There is an instructor up the front yelling what our next move is and 20 sweaty bodies all trying to follow his lead. But it is fun and I feel centred and happy after a class.
I spend a good portion of my day working, either for myself or for others. It makes me feel good that I can share the skills I have spent my lifetime accumulating and that it helps others. But do I feel peaceful when I am working. Not really. I am focussed on what needs to be done to complete what I am working on.
So, is a peaceful life possible? Well, my life is not one stressed out event after another. Nor is it many hours a day sitting in quiet contemplation and speaking words of wisdom in a soft voice. I am in a really great place where I am not trying to control everything and am accepting of what happens. I am in a place where I take steps every day to create a future that looks more like the one in my imagination. You can call it a peaceful life if you like. It might just be. What I know is it is not 'out there' in some book or course, it is inside of me and comes from finally being in place where I manage and create what I can and accept and let go of what I cannot control. And suddenly life seems easier.
Till next time
“You cannot find peace by avoiding life.”
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