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This week, we are discussing:
The Illusion of control
and the search for peace and harmony.
You think you're in charge?
Control
I admit, sometimes I can be a bit of a control freak. And what I have come to realise is that being in control is an illusion. My need to control has in the past come from a place of fear. It comes from a place of 'if I am in control, then everything I want to happen will happen'. Not true. All you do when you feel that need is alienate others, wear yourself out and feel constantly on edge in case you lose control. So while in life you cannot control anything, you do make choices and you can make new choices. But before you do that you have to accept what you have now. You are not in control of anything else except how you feel and how you respond to your life. Wanting to control will just cause you pain, anger and heartache.
Choice
A far more empowering and peaceful place to be is acceptance. What if you just accepted the events, the people and the things you have in your life. They may not be perfect, but the reality is they are there because you chose them. That's right, you chose. Think about it. You chose who you spend time with, friends, family etc. You choose where you work. You choose where you live, the car you drive and the clothes you wear. There are few people on the planet who have no choice. So how different would you feel if you just accept that your life is what it is and that you chose that life.
Change
If you don't like what your life looks like and the choices you have made, then change them. Change the things you can change, accept the things you cannot change. You can be kinder, smile more, be kind to yourself. You can do further study to improve your career, phase out toxic people from your life and include more fun in it. You cannot pick the winning lotto numbers, make somebody love you or turn back time so you are 18 again (and would you really want to?).
Try it out and let me know how you go.
Acceptance = peace.
til next time
Sherry
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“For after all, the best thing one can do when it is raining is let it rain.”
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“My happiness grows in direct proportion to my acceptance, and in inverse proportion to my expectations.”
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