Issue March 2012
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Cool, Calm & Connected E-news

Email The Goddess
Of Public Speaking
For Help With Your

Geraldine Barkworth


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Hello to you!
1/6 of the year has gone - are you 1/6 of the way through your 2012 intentions? Don't fret; I'm not either - which is why I've hired a vision coach.

Any kind of personal or professional develoment will help you recharge - something the Australian Institute of Management knows all about.  I spoke at the Gold Coast AIM event in February about presence and authenticity. The room was filled with people from public and private sectors learning how to slow down to connect whenever you speak.

What are your intentions for March?

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Dear Goddess Of Public Speaking...

" How can I get an audience's attention when I speak? I try really hard to keep their interest but it feels like I'm battling... "  P.N., PSYCHOTHERAPIST
" Look At Me, Look At Me, Look At Me!
How to keep audience attention. "

Dear P.N.,
Trying hard at anything is tiring. And people, well we can just be perverse. If an audience knows you desperately want their attention, they will likely choose to not give you any.

Stop trying so hard. Who ever said speaking to an audience had to be hard work? I'm not suggesting you don't put in any effort - just stop trying to battle your way into being heard. Instead, give them a choice and something worth listening to - you.

"Trying" is like a "should" or "attempting". It  requires pushing and forcing, is energy draining and often hides a "but". I've noticed that clients who say they "try" a lot, are 'stuck". They are often attached emotionally to a belief about how things "should be". So they keep trying. And trying.

"Effort" is like a "choice". It gives you energy, options and a sense of empowerment. Choosing where and how to place your energy restores a sense of control. Focus on the outcome and the needs of your audience, rather than being driven by your own old fears.

Here's a list of Do's and Don'ts to help you easily maintain audience attention whenever you speak to 1 or to many:

  • Don't assume - research your audience and ask them conversationally if you are on track.
  • Don't forget to introduce yourself - people like to know who you are and what you offer.
  • Don't talk too fast and fill every space - people need time to process your ideas.
  • Don't give too much information - it can be overwhelming and cluttered.
  • Don't regurgitate and use cliches - it's insulting and boring.

  • Do pause and take a breath with your audience before you start. This gives people time to give you their attention, rather than you forcing it upon them.
  • Do establish credibility and expertise - either through an introduction or subject knowledge.
  • Do be fully present and focussed, not thinking about what you are going to say next.
  • Do be original - get comfortable in your own skin and know what's different about you.
  • Do make things simple. Use simple language, gestures and paint pictures with words.
  • Do focus on 1 main message and repeat it, spelling out the impact, benefits and actions required.

  1. Let go of "trying" and just be yourself.
  2. Establish trust and rapport first and invite attention, not force it.
  3. Interact constantly with your audience, just like a one on one conversation.
  4. Tailor your message to every audience so they get "what's in it for me" immediately.
  5. Offer valuable, original and customised  information and deliver it with natural authenticity.

Trust me, if you do these 5 things, you will powerfully maintain people's attention every time you speak.

* Try a Confidence & Connection program if you are really stuck.
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It's time now to take your personal and professional wellbeing pulse. On a scale like the one below, rate between 1 and 10, how cool, calm and connected you feel right now...
When you speak and lead with natural ease and authenticity, you will be closer to 10. When you feel scattered, distracted or unconfident, you will be closer to 1.


What To Do: If you are above a 7 today, notice what's working well and keep doing it. Accept that daily variations in confidence and clarity are normal. If you are below a 7 today, listen to our free recording of the 5 minute Inner Calm exercise.
  You can also download our 2 free A4 Posters of Inner Calm  and the Calm Barometer for your wall.


grey-sky thinking

n. "Negative or pessimistic thoughts, ideas, or solutions."

Permission to share words granted by the author, Paul McFedries
"The Word Lovers Guide To New Words."

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