E: Geraldine Barkworth
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Goddess Of Public Speaking works with the psychology and physiology behind speaking nerves to help you find your authentic voice, style and message.
What Clients Say
"I've been actively seeking out speaking engagements, and receiving them! Yay. I can’t thank you enough, and my one word for you is ‘revealing’.
Our private coaching intensive revealed to me what it was that was holding me back, (lack of confidence that I had something important to say) and now I can move forward. Best wishes, Sam"
SAMANTHA WHEELER, Children's Book Author
Because Authenticity Begins Within
It's no fun being tongue tied. Or having something you really want to say, but just don't know how. And you can't keep avoiding public speaking for your whole life.
Are you ready to overcome your speaking nerves, find your authentic voice and actually enjoy speaking in front of groups?
Experienced speaking coach, Geraldine Barkworth, director of Goddess Of Public Speaking, coaches with privacy, flexibility and compassion by phone and skype.
Japanese Word Lover
(n) A woman so dedicated to her career that she has no time to iron blouses so dresses only in knitted tops.
Dear <<First Name>>,
Hello Folks, how's the year shaping up for you? Have you fallen back into your evil "nito-onna"ways? (Read WORD LOVER in side column.)
The earlybird of $325 for the Newcastle 1 day workshop finishes May 29th, so please book in now if you want to handle speaking nerves.
I am still creating short webinars and will let you know when they're ready - I keep getting hired to run workshops for organisations... sigh! How to fit it all in... or not... is the question. Guess I should invest in knitted blouses. Geraldine
The Fine Art Of Self Introduction
So Who On Earth Are You & Why Should We Care?
And that Question dear reader, speaks to one of our deepest fears and is the key to the fine art of self introduction. Being able to introduce oneself with ease and memorable panache at a meeting, networking event, professional seminar or party is one of my Top 5 client requests. Are you wondering why?
The Fear Beneath Introducing Yourself
The fear is primarily of social rejection. What if you are not good enough? What if they don’t like you? What if you are judged and found wanting? Most people peddle a no-thought-out self introduction that walks the tenuous line of trying to not to stand out too much and yet, stand out enough to be remembered.
What would happen if you just dropped over-thinking and self consciousness and turned your focus from yourself onto… them… your listeners… your audience… colleagues… potential friends?
I’ll tell you what will happen… you will become a Self Introduction Super Star! And for those of you who just cringed (me included), I’ll rephrase that to something suitably less hyped… you’ll forget the fear and effortlessly introduce yourself… because self introductions are not really about you.
Generally, a Self Introduction takes between 30 and 180 seconds. About the time it takes to brush your teeth, answer a text message or have a blood test. A brief rah rah and then it’s all over. But, it is important, yes?
The Impact of A Poor Self Intro
Ooooh dear, are you shrivelling with the memory of a time you really “stuffed up” introducing yourself or remembered the compassion you felt when someone else struggled like a butterfly on a pin in front of the group? Oh how we don’t want that for ourselves. And yet, it does happen to all of us, some of the time.
Common Self Intro Mistakes Quiz
1. Forget to mention your name.
2. Ramble and get gonged off for going overtime.
3. You don’t really “end”, just fade away as you sink into your chair.
4. Say too much too soon and overwhelm. (My downfall)
5. Be mind numbingly boring… because you are bored.
6. Apologise for existing before and after you speak.
7. Sound just like everyone else and be just as forgettable.
8. Inappropriately list your achievements like a verbal CV.
9. Launch into a high powered selling tirade.
10. Fail to explain who you are and why anyone should listen to you.
Tip: Know Your Listeners First
When listeners ask themselves “who on earth are you and why should I care?, what they really looking for is:
- Credibility (how are you qualified to speak and why should I listen to you?)
- Relationship (how are you related to me and people I trust?)
- Need (what’s in it for me? Do I need you now, later or never?)
How do you fit this all in 60 seconds and still sound relaxed and enthralling? Sounds like a lot to bother with doesn’t it?
So Why Bother Learning This Fine Art?
1. It creates a positive, memorable first impression.
2. It helps listeners understand who you are and how you can help.
3. It is courteous, professional and respectful of people’s time.
4. It helps you stand out by identifying your unique point of difference.
5. It builds confidence in yourself which is radiantly attractive.
It’s Not Hard When You Know How
Here’s a great example I’ve used before because I like it’s picturesque brevity:
“Hello, I’m Wendy; I help people find their toes. I’m a weight loss consultant.”
See how these 2 short sentences introduce Wendy and explain how she can help you (if you need to find your toes) in a memorable and creative way? And here’s another of my favourites demonstrating a clear point of difference and personality:
“You know how people often struggle at tax time… well I fix that. I’m a specialist bookkeeper for small business. My clients call me “The Tax Queen” but really, my name is Julia… and I really do love tax and computers!“
Use Your Physical Presence To Introduce Yourself
And you don’t need to just use your mouth to introduce yourself. Most listeners have other senses to engage. Ever had someone call out an endorsement when you speak “She’s great!” Trust and engagement spread like wildfire.
Take a confident physical stance. Yes, re-watch the Amy Cuddy video on power poses. Hold eye contact, use gestures, voice and props. Some examples:
- If you are a photographer, bring your camera “This is what I do” and explain how you’d take a photo of the group in front of you… “If you want an angle that shows…” If appropriate, do it and offer it up as a social media post later.
- If you are a physical therapist, say “Neck and shoulders hold the most tension. I’m going to show you how to fix that. Turn to the person next to you, ask their permission, and if ok, press this point and massage… pause…my name is Gregor… yes no joke I’m a Swedish physio… and I help clients release pain and get back to normal.”
And so on. Don’t get fixated on verbal gymnastics. Use your body to speak.
Be Clear, Be Honest, Be Brief
Self Introductions appear to be about you.
But Self Introductions are really about your listeners.
Use clarity, honesty and brevity to explain who you are and why they should care.
(Later in the year I’ll be releasing a self-help Self Intro Kit. Stay tune.) If you can’t wait, you are welcome to book coaching sessions with me from July onwards.) (c) 2016 Geraldine Barkworth, speaking coach, www.goddessofpublicspeaking.com.au
Time To Take Your Cool, Calm & Connected Pulse!
Using the Calm Barometer below, rate how cool, calm and connected you feel right now between 1 and 10...
When you speak, lead and live with natural ease and authenticity, you will be closer to 10.
When you feel scattered, distracted or unconfident, you will be closer to 1.
What To Do: If you are "7" or above today, notice what's working well and keep doing it. Accept that daily variations in confidence and clarity are normal. If you are below "7" today, listen to our free recording of the 5 minute Inner Calm Exercise.
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