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Geraldine Barkworth is a speaking coach & presenter.
She owns the training and coaching business, Goddess Of Public Speaking, based in northern NSW Australia. Geraldine has worked with clients in Australia and New Zealand since 2002 via phone and corporate workshop. She shows clients how to free their inner speaker, manage speaking nerves, create workshops and presentations and refine their unique message.
AUGUST TALK TIP
To avoid getting lots of blowy, farty, sssyyy sounds with a lectern, floor or hand held microphone, aim to speak 5 – 10 cm across the top of the mike, not directly into it. Practise with a carrot at home. The carrot will never laugh at you of course, only with you.
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" I really hate making eye contact in groups larger than 4 or 5 . My wife says my eyes dart about like little black flies. I just can't relax and stay still. " B.Z., REGISTERED NURSE
" Why Relaxing Your Eyes Makes You A Better Public Speaker "
You've named it in one - it is all about relaxing. In western culture, we generally interpret darting eyes and avoidance of eye contact as suspicious and unconfident. We even attribute guilt with the phrase "he wouldn't meet my eyes."
Take the pressure off believing you have to connect with everyone at once. Public speaking is not a multi-tasking competition. Relax. Be with 1 person at a time. That's really enough. You are not going to "lose people" if you aren't gazing at all of them, all of the time. It's physically impossible to give to everyone, so don't bother.
When you relax, your audience relaxes too. And relaxed people are more receptive to hearing your message. It really is in your best interest to learn how to make gentle, sustained eye contact if you want to take your communication skills to another level. Here are the 3 steps to help you relax into making gentle, sustained eye contact... http://www.goddessofpublicspeaking.com.au/blog/?p=273
" The Case Of False Assumptions "
Client Case Study: * Marcia, Executive Coach
Marcia, an experienced and inherently wise coach, presented to me with a drop in self confidence. The situation triggering the drop, was the potential loss of a long term corporate client who gave "her work" to a competitor and hadn't spoken to Marcia about it.
Imagination festers uncertainty and Marcia was assuming the worst. She was pretty certain the client no longer wanted her. She wanted to talk to him about it but as time ticked on, she worried about her ability to stand her ground in a conversation with him and not feel dismissed or small... http://www.goddessofpublicspeaking.com.au/blog/public-speaking/the-case-of-false-assumptions/
" The Rested Tongue Reflects... "
Where's The Easy Path?
At a recent Meditation Retreat I practiced Walking Meditation for 45 minutes. It involved taking 10 steps, back and forth and I started on steep and uneven ground. I was trying too hard and losing my balance. I was bored and cold. I'd really rather have a cup of tea and look spiritual from a lofty cushion.
After several slow back and forths, I realised that in life, I often start on the steep path and wonder why I struggle... http://www.goddessofpublicspeaking.com.au/blog/authentic-voice/rested-tongue-reflects/
10 YEAR ANNIVERSARY GIFT TO SUBSCRIBERS
Email me to receive a free copy of my just revised, 6 page e-book "Shut Up & Let Your Body Talk: how to communicate with natural ease, presence & impact to any audience." (usually $10).
It's time now to take your personal and professional wellbeing pulse. On a scale like the one below, rate between 1 and 10, how cool, calm and connected you feel right now...
When you speak and lead with natural ease and authenticity, you will be closer to 10. When you feel scattered, distracted or unconfident, you will be closer to 1.
What To Do: If you are above a 7 today, notice what's working well and keep doing it. Accept that daily variations in confidence and clarity are normal. If you are below a 7 today, listen to our free recording of the 5 minute Inner Calm exercise. You can also download our 2 free A4 Posters of Inner Calm and the Calm Barometer for your wall.