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I am thrilled to announce I've finally entered the age of video technology!
Each month I'll produce a video version of this newsletter called the "3 Minute Monthly". I'll provide the link with each issue. And I'd love to hear your feedback...
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August 2 - 5, 2012
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Dear Goddess Of Public Speaking...
" I enjoy public speaking, in fact I just enjoy speaking. But I've been described as a "chipmunk on speed" and "overwhelming". I talk fast becasue that's who I am, so how can I be less overwhelming to others and still be myself?" M.T., PROFESSIONAL ORGANISER
" Pause Power: Slow Down And Pause Often "
Great question! I often have the same problem. Us enthusiastic, high energy types can be experienced as overwhelming by our slower-paced brethren. Bless them.
I'll start with a story which demonstrates the surprising impact of speaking pace:
"A few years ago I ran a day workshop on impromptu speaking for some Brisbane librarians. I had not had my morning coffee and was feeling slow and sleepy and so honouring my natural state, I spoke slowly and sleepily. And so did the next 8 people after me. I was thinking, "Wow! What a relaxed bunch!" Then we got to Librarian Number 9. She burst out:" O my god I just can't do it! I can't be slow. I'm sorry I'm sorry I'm sorry! It's just me! I have to be different!"
As the facilitator, I hadn't realised that the group was copying my speaking pace, assuming it was the "right way" to do impromptu speaking. Thank you Librarian No 9 for reminding us to be ourselves.
How To Slow Down
Most of us in the West, do speak English very quickly. A slower pace, using gravitas, is restful and impactful. Listeners have time to absorb your words and if you are speaking, you want to create the best listening environment you can for your message to be heard.
You do not need to change your essential self and be something you are not. You just need to slow down and pause often. Imagine where the commas, colons, dashes, fullstops and new paragraphs would be if your talk was in writing. That's where you "take a pause".
A good way to practise finding the most effective pace for you, is to read text out loud in front of a friend or record your voice. Practice exaggerating the pausing opportunities at commas, fullstops and new paragraphs. Notice words where you may pause to emphasise meaning or importance.
What You Can Do Right Now
Use these written "punctuation opportunities" as a guideline to slowing down and pausing often:
To indicate a "comma" when you speak, stop and take a mini pause.
To indicate a "full stop" when you speak, stop and take a short pause of at least one full breath.
To indicate a "new topic or new paragraph" as it were, stop and take a big pause of two to three breaths.
If you are a naturally fast speaker, then be mindful of your speaking pace. Remember to pause graciously at regular intervals to check your listeners are still with you and not overwhelmed. A chipmunk on speed is only cute for a short time.
If you'd like a fabulous working-holiday and want to blitz public speaking for once and for all, regardless of your chipmunk status, join 8 women only at our August 2-5, 2012 Retreat. Watch the new uploaded retreat testimonial from Carissa who speaks about her experience at the 2011 Retreat. Notice how well she practises slowing down and pausing!
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It's time now to take your personal and professional wellbeing pulse. On a scale like the one below, rate between 1 and 10, how cool, calm and connected you feel right now...
When you speak and lead with natural ease and authenticity, you will be closer to 10. When you feel scattered, distracted or unconfident, you will be closer to 1.
What To Do: If you are above a 7 today, notice what's working well and keep doing it. Accept that daily variations in confidence and clarity are normal. If you are below a 7 today, listen to our free recording of the 5 minute Inner Calm exercise. You can also download our 2 free A4 Posters of Inner Calm and the Calm Barometer for your wall.