GREAT SPEAKERS NEWSLETTER - June 1, 2014
WHAT I LEARNED AS A PROFESSIONAL ACTOR EVERY SPEAKER NEEDS TO KNOW TO SUCCEED.
In an Actors’ Studio interview, Ralph Fiennes said that in his audition for RADA (Royal Academy of Dramatic Arts) he was told, not to make it happen but to let it happen. And that advice changed his work and his future as an actor.
This is my one constant mantra with my Speaking Clients.
When I first heard, get out of your own way, it's not about you, leave yourself alone at the American Academy of Dramatic Arts in New York, I didn’t get it.
What does it really mean? How do you go about learning to do this?
LET IT HAPPEN. Don't make it happen.
- Your attention has to be on the person you are speaking to or as a speaker, the audience members.
- You have to give yourself over to failing and revealing yourself (it clearly and deeply communicates your humanity) and as a speaker you allow yourself to focus more on your message than on your performance. This allows the audience to recognize themselves in you.
GIVE UP ON PERFECTION - it is the enemy of GREAT.
You really have to STOP:
- Directing yourself and anticipating your next move.
- Judging how fully emotional, present and authentic you are.
- Comparing this performance to the last one as no two performances/speeches are ever the same and shouldn't be as the audience is different and so are you.
YOU NEED TO BE VERY PRESENT (This cannot be stressed enough)
TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS
TRUST yourself and your instincts, no matter how “wrong” they seem in your mind. Your judgmental mind does not belong in the scene or in your speech.
AND MOST IMPORTANT – Remember IT IS NOT ABOUT YOU
IT IS ABOUT
Next time you talk to someone, REALLY LISTEN, PUT YOURSELF IN THEIR SHOES, BE PRESENT (don't go anywhere in your mind - future or past - stay with the person you are with). LISTEN.
- the story you are telling,
- about the gift you are giving,
- and about the audience you are giving it to.
You will open up a whole new world of communication that will take you to a new level of understanding others and yourself. This is what I hear from my actors and speakers over and over again.