This week, we are discussing:

What does the right relationship look like?

to you, others, society?

In my coaching work I often speak to people about their relationships. We live in a society where relationships are meant to 'look' a certain way. The truth is that people are different and that every relationship is different. What works for one couple may not work for another.

Relationships that work have a few things in common. Love for each other. Respect for each other. And a good sense of who you are and what works for you. Problems can arise when people try to live by the rules imposed by society, family or their partner that limit their own growth and happiness.

Living together is not always the best option for people. Sometimes having your own room or even your own home works better. Monogamy is not for everyone. Some people enjoy the variety and excitement of other partners from time to time. And having and open relationship or swinging is not for everyone. Some people want children and some don't. Some people are OK with helping parent children that are not their own and some are not.

The greatest relationships are between two people who know who they are outside of the relationship and accept who they are both independently and within the couple. I guess my message this week is - Who are you and what makes you happy? And if your relationship as it is now doesn't, then initiate a conversation about what it is that would help you. You aren't doing this to try and change the other person, but to be true to you. Be honest about what works for you, how you operate and what you want. Don't sell out and stay quiet. What will happen is that over time you will compromise who you are and at some time in the future you will wake up and wonder where 'you' went because the life you are living leaves you feeling empty.

There is no such thing as the 'right relationship' that is right for everyone. There are as many different ways of being in a relationship as there are people on the planet. You just need to find the one that is right for you, not the one that everyone else says is right.

have a great week.

Til next time

Sherry

What does the right relationship look like?

to you, others, society?

“I’ve been fighting to be who I am all my life. What’s the point of being who I am, if I can’t have the person who was worth all the fighting for?”

SD Lennox, I Don't Remember You

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Ernest Hemingway, Men Without Women