There are times in life where we are required to make a decision. And there are times when we have an idea which is not yet a decision. You see, the word decision comes from a Latin word that means 'to cut off'. So when you have made a decision it is done. You have cut off other options and whatever you have decided will happen. So, you can tell a lot from the language people use as to whether they have actually made a decision or whether they are merely playing out loud with ideas.
When we use language that includes the words that are not definite we may be letting our fear hold us back. Studies show that successful leaders generally make decisions quickly and change their mind slowly. Those who are not as successful tend to take a long time to make a decision and change their mind often and quickly. This week I would encourage you to pause when you have a decision to make. Just take a breath, reflect for a moment and then make a decision. There is a sense of relief that comes from knowing what you need to do. And you only know for sure what you need to do when you have decided.
Some words to look out for in your language that will show you where you are putting off making decisions are:
'could'
'should'
'might'
'maybe'
'ought'
When you hear these words, see if you will feel better if you make a decision one way or the other. For example - 'I should go to the gym' will just make you feel bad about yourself for not deciding. "I'm going /not going to the gym' will feel better because you have decided on a course of action. You may find you surprise yourself by doing more, just because you make decisions.
Anyway, have some fun with it and let me know how you go.
Til next time
Sherry
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