This week, we are discussing:

Are you a control freak?

And what happens when you just accept and allow?

So I'm going to let you in on a secret. I am a control freak. Well at least I have been told that I am. I am ambitious yes. I like things to be a certain way, yes. I get anxious when I don't know what the outcome of something will be, yes. So, am I a control freak or is that just normal. I don't know. What I do know is that the last few months have been a steep learning curve and the last two weeks have been full of major shifts for me.

I moved to Melbourne at the beginning of the year (well actually I got here on 23rd December) with no work lined up here and with commitments back in Perth once a month for the next 10 months at least. As someone who likes to know what is going on and thought it would be easy the reality was quite a shock. There were many many times when I wanted to just pack up and move back. It was much tougher than I anticipated being away from family and friends, not having a lot of work here and working to build a network in a new city without that support network right here that I could call up, have a coffee and who would tell me everything would be ok. I have spent a lot of time on the phone with closest friends and that's great but still quite different to getting out for dinner or socialising in some other way. Over the time here I have made some new friends and established some great business contacts. I do tend to be impatient though and it all felt too hard at times and like it was taking too long for me to reach my goal.

Many years ago I studied the work of Esther Hicks. Esther 'channels' an entity called abraham and a lot of the topics are about allowing rather than trying to control life. About two weeks ago, I just had to let it all go. I just had to practice what I preach and accept that things were they way that they are right now and take steps to be OK with whatever was happening for me, let the frustration go and be open to possibilities to show up in unexpected ways.

Well, WOW. When things change it can be so rapid it is breathtaking. Suddenly so many things are happening that are positive, challenging and exciting. And it hit me yesterday, I made a decision to allow rather than try to control everything. I made a conscious effort over the last two years to work on me, to only control me and now I feel like I have gotten closer to that goal. I'm stil a work in progress, but I'm a better version of me now.

I've had friends say they are jealous of all my recent good fortune, and how lucky I am. My response is 'this is not an overnight thing. It's been at least a two year process of learning about me, accepting myself and finally learning that really I can't control anything except how I choose to feel in any given moment.' And there have been moments where I chose to feel despair, to be depressed, to be anxious and to indulge in self pity. I work with a coach who is amazing and she has helped me to reframe those times so that I can see the gifts even amongst the confusion and pain.

So, work on you. Really that's the only control you have. Don't try to analyse everything or wonder how it will work out. Know where you want to get to and be flexible about how that happens. It feels now like all these great things are happening because I am ready for them. And that is when everything opens up and you feel that 'flow' that we all seek.

have a great week.

Til next time

Sherry

Are you a control freak?

And what happens when you just accept and allow?

'It's not your work to make anything happen. It's your work to dream it and let it happen'

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