MarriedPeople Monthly - August 2017
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MARRIEDPEOPLE MONTHLY

As a MarriedPeople Monthly member, each month you receive ideas and insights with go-and-do's you can actually go and do. So pick one, two, three of the things below and see how little things can turn into something big. You got this . . . because you are better at marriage than you think!

WHEN FACED WITH BIG DECISIONS, HOW DO YOU MAKE THEM AS A COUPLE? 


Beth: When we have a big decision, we usually do two things first—weigh the options based on our family values and pray. Then we have a back and forth conversation for however long it takes. Because of the first two, we usually agree rather quickly. 

 

Buck: In addition to what Beth said, depending on the emotional weight or the type of the decision, we will often seek wise counsel from other couples that have been through something similar. Sometimes we need an outside perspective from someone that knows us and loves us enough to speak truth in our lives. 
 
Buck and Beth Webb have been married for 12 years.    

HOT BUTTON

SIMPLE THINGS THAT CAN DRAMATICALLY IMPACT YOUR MARRIAGE


As a long-time marriage therapist, one thing I have found to be true is this: After a few years of marriage, couples let up on some of the things that came naturally when dating and first married. One of those things is the expression of gratitude for each other. It may seem small, but it's actually a really big deal. And since I know that almost all couples need to work on this, I begin weaving it back into the relationship in the very first session and make it a homework assignment. So what do I mean by gratitude?

I think we all know the dictionary definition of gratitude, which is a feeling of being grateful or thankful. But what I am talking about here goes a little further—it's a deep sense of appreciation for your spouse. It goes beyond the cursory “thank you” for picking up the dry cleaning or loading the dishwasher.  
(Click here for entire entry.) —by Dr. Beverly Bird

Each month, we justify surfing the Web to bring you random awesomeness. This month we want you to see this one, because everyone needs a trip to an ATM like this

I fell for you when _________ .  

THE SPICE

ONE TIP THAT WILL HOPEFULLY BRING YOU CLOSER IN THE BEDROOM


This month we want you to hear from Casey Caston from Marriage 365.

Most of the questions we get from couples are about being stuck in a sexual rut. For years, we didn't talk about it because no one taught us how to have a healthy conversation about our sex life.

That all changed when we discovered the post-sex wrap-up. Some dear friends mentioned that this transformed their sex life and gave them the insights needed to love their spouse in the specific ways they wanted to be loved. This post-game pillow talk focuses on what they like, don’t like, and affirming each other. This is a time for no judgments. The goal is to build their love life. We use this all the time and it works!
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2-MINUTE VACATION


During one meal this week, ask each other this question: 

If you wrote a book, what would it be about?  

PLUGGED IN

THE BEST GIFT YOU CAN GIVE YOUR SPOUSE IS A HEALTHY YOU–SPIRITUALLY, PHYSICALLY, MENTALLY, AND EMOTIONALLY.


Each month, we will explore a different way to make you a better you. This month we want you to hear from Amanda Maguire. 

"I, Amanda, take you Jeff, to have and to hold from this day forward, for BETTER or for WORSE . . . "

What did I know about those two words then I was 22!
Jeff and I laugh. We are mostly amazed that many of us make the most life changing, single most important decision of all time when we are young and naive. At 22 when I said those vows, BETTER was beaches and sunshine and WORST was the common cold. Sixteen years later I know BETTER (and I know WORSE).

Some days the best I can be for my husband is a fake smile and maybe kiss on the cheek, because I've given my BETTER and best away to so many other people, places, and things that pull on me every second of every day.
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